(Closed) Engaged or not — responses needed and welcome!

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
3170 posts
Sugar bee

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WannaBee2BridalBee:  The thing I really don’t want is a public proposal. The idea of strangers seeing what I consider to be a really private moment freaks me out. I especially don’t like the idea of a stranger snapping a pic of the proposal. SO and I live in NYC and there are always hordes of tourists around, so it’s very plausible.

Post # 3
79 posts
Worker bee

The only way I don’t want to be proposed is how I was proposed to with my ex! lol. 


I my trust my SO will do it perfectly, we are very similar and he knows me well enough to know what I like/ dislike! Thankfully lol. 


But yeahhhhhh…. No public proposals for me!

Post # 4
697 posts
Busy bee

I would prefer to not be in front of work people/friends. I would hate for our parents to potentially find out through facebook or from some way that wasn’t from us. But besides that I am up for whatever 🙂

Post # 5
16 posts
  • Wedding: April 2015

NOTHING in public surrounded by tons of people. I think that is just so awkward (unless you’re a total extrovert, I guess). I wouldn’t even like a proposal in front of close friends/family. I mean, I would have still said yes if my fiancee did it that way, but I like all of that to be more on the private side. We’re even taking some time on our wedding day to go somewhere just the two of us and read each other our own vows before the ceremony happens!

Post # 6
912 posts
Busy bee

I agree with others- nothing super public or showy. I wanted it very private.

Post # 7
8515 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I told Fiance that I didn’t want it in public and didn’t want it in a restaurant. Other than that, I was game.

Post # 9
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would’ve loved a public proposal (though not a flash mob or anything else over-the-top), I’m definitely extraverted and love attention. But Fiance said he hated the idea of a public proposal. I suggested at a fancy restaurant for anniversary dinner, but he said that was still too public. He ended up proposing in our living room, which I was fine with. As long as he was comfortable and we ended up engaged! It turned out to be nice because we were able to call our family/friends, so some drinking and then have sex pretty much immediately after 😉

Post # 10
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Private, personal, perfect. I’m marrying him not the crowd of people that could be watching.

Post # 11
1630 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My only actual stipulation was that he not do it in the bathroom. who wants to be proposed to while brushing thier teeth or anything else that goes on in there? My Fiance knows me well enough to know I really preferred he didn’t do it it public and such. So, I got a nice at home proposal… Right after i came out of the bathroom :p

Post # 12
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The two things I don’t want are a private proposal at home or in the car, or a proposal that is generic/shows a minimum of thought. I’m a low maintenance woman when it comes to a guy spending money; however I really would never be with a man who wasn’t thoughtful, creative and attuned to what makes me tick so certainly my proposal should show those around us that he is proud to marry me in a way that expresses who each of us is. 

Post # 13
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I pretty much demanded not to do it in front of his family cuz I knew he was aiming for Christmas. I didn’t want his family knowing before mine did. And besides, it has nothing to do with anyone else but us!  He ended up doing it at home after he made me a candlelit dinner 🙂

Post # 14
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am not a fan of public proposals but this was never discussed with my husband. He didn’t propose in public anyway.

Post # 15
126 posts
Blushing bee

I’m not against the idea of a public proposal. If it was, I would rather it be in front of strangers than family/friends. Somehow that seems more “intimate” to me. But I do really want it captured on camera.

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