(Closed) Engaged or not — responses needed and welcome!

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

FantasticFawn:  +1 I have specifically stipulated to my SO no public proposals – I agree with you that it is a very personal thing between the two of you, no family and no strangers present please.  I also dont want the fluff – extravagent declarations ie: props, production etc I would just adore a quiet intimate moment between the two of us in a secluded setting being 100% honest about how he feels and ask me.   Even if it was at home, in our garden, on a walk or something just somewhere for the two of us to be open honest and enjoy the moment together.  Even the getting down on one knee thing makes me feel uncomfortable just thinking about it.

I really hate photos too especially staged ones (even so that I compromised with SO that we will have a photographer but they will follow us around @ wedding and engagement party – no staged shots) so no proposal photos either. 

Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Librarybee:  Bahahahaa havent laughed so hard

“I swear, if you hit the window lock one more time after you fart…” GOLD.

 

Post # 48
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Newbee

I’d just like something low-key, just the two of us. Even after being together 10 years, I dont expect or want a big over the top public event  -I blush too easily!

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think I would have said yes regardless, but I feel like if had made it a full affair with everyone we knew I would feel very uncomfortable, OR if he didn’t really propose and juts kinda gave me the ring while we were at home watching tv and said we should get married, or worse with no ring, I would probably be a bit annoyed at that.

My fi proposed by recreating out first date and then taking me to a park nearby and proposing, which was very sweet.

The only thing that was a bit off was he was super nervous, even though I picked out the ring, we bought it with both of our money, we lived together, and I knew it was coming that day, he was still super nervous, and due to that it kind of made the actual proposal a bit more awkward than I expected, but he is a shy guy and I knew that and it was still the best moment of my life besides when I met him so it was okay 🙂

 

Post # 51
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Busy bee

In my head it was always going to happen on a beach because we both love spending time there. I’d never really considered the whole being in public thing but I think I knew it wouldn’t be anything too flashy so it didn’t worry me. Turned out it was exactly as I’d hoped only a overcast day when we were bundled up in warm clothes and pretty much the only people there – it was subtle and beautiful! He had a temporary ring and then we went to pick out a diamond the next day!

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Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Definitely in private and not around other ppl. My Boyfriend or Best Friend is not what you would call the romantic, sappy, whisper sweet nothings in my ear type of person so when it happens I want him to be able to say the proposal without feeling the need to hold back/be embarassed b/c other ppl are around!

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I did not want anything televised, nothing to go “viral” and not a large audience. I felt like it would be such a private moment and I didn’t want to share it with a bunch of strangers. That was the only thing I ever told my now husband. He did it at home in bed with our dog draped over us… It was very us and very lowkey. 🙂

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper

WannaBee2BridalBee:  All I wanted was a proposal and not on my birthday.  I was pretty easy going about the whole thing honestly.

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I had no specifications whatsoever. Before my husband told me he was planning on proposing I had given approximately zero thought to what I wanted or didn’t want in a proposal..

My proposal was perfect. He knocked it out of the park. I would’ve been mortified if he made a spectacle out of it….

Post # 56
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I didn’t want it in a restaurant or on a holiday. I didn’t want a super public proposal like a flash mob or in front of the whole stadium, but I didn’t mind if people were around. He proposed on top of Diamond Head in Hawaii and there were a lot of people up there but not where we were. He asked a stranger to take a pic and told him he was proposing. The stranger and his wife were the only ones who knew what was going on and congratulated us. Yes there was people around so we weren’t private, but no one was pating attention and we weren’t the center of attention so it felt private.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Like many others, I did not want it public and I told him that ahead of time. He actually said one of the ideas he had and scratched was during one of his softball games, he’d pretend to get hurt and have someone bring me onto the field and propose there. I would have killed him lol Making me think he’s seriously hurt and faking me out is not romantic! But he realized that on his own thankfully.

Post # 58
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Newbee

I said I didn’t want to be proposed to on an already established holiday like Christmas or Valentine’s Day because it seemed cheesy. I didn’t mention it, but I didn’t want it to be a big public affair, either. He ended up proposing to me here a couple weeks after V-Day. 

 

Post # 59
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Blushing bee

Not engaged yet, but I’ve made it very clear no super public proposals (SO agrees, he’s way too shy for that) and nothing involving food… I always make fun of food-related proposals on TV, so he knows how I feel about them and he seems to agree! 

I think the only public proposal I’d make an exception for would be at Disneyland at my favorite spot: beside Snow White’s wishing well. But I’d rather nobody be around for it. That would be pretty magical.

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