(Closed) Engaged same time as sister – any tips?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

Your sister sounds a little like mine. I’m the oldest and have always enjoyed “hanging out” with my family whereas my sister likes to do her own thing.

I’ve been engaged since September and I think my sister will be getting proposed to this summer! 

I’ve really enjoyed being on the same timeline as my sister and we’ve enjoyed looking at engagement rings and wedding things together. A lot of people told me I’m crazy but I really want my sister to get engaged before my wedding in December so we can be engaged at the same time. 

I don’t have any advice as to how your little sister will feel, but I did want to say it can be really awesome to share such a special time with a little sister smile

Post # 3
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Worker bee

I’m a younger sister and I wish I had been engaged at the same time to avoid the “Well you’re next!” comments at her wedding!  I got engaged shortly after but it still put a lot of pressure on my fiance!  I think it all depends on your relationship with your sister… if you’re close she’ll be excited for your day and there will be no “overshadowing” – she’ll understand your day is your day and hers will be hers.  My sister and I aren’t very close and I know she would have been upset if I got engaged before her wedding because it would have taken some of the focus off the build up to her wedding.

The one thing that does bother me is everyone says “well at your sisters’s wedding it was like this..” which only bothers me because it’s like people want me to have the exact same wedding as my sister even though we’re totally different people.  I feel like my plans aren’t “good enough” because my sister did it better.  But I got over it, I love my sister and she loves me and our wedding is going to be amazing!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Me and my sister are also both currently engaged, however I am the older sister. She is far more “me, me, me” which is totally fine. My wedding will be much smaller (most likely eloping) It has far less bearing than you think to be engaged at the same time. Let her plan her wedding her way and you plan yours your way. Try giving her a touch more credit. maybe she will be just fine with everything.

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