Post # 1
So my sister & I have a good relationship lately but it sort of ebbs and flows. She’s kind of a “do my own thing” type of person (only with family) and I am very “involve everybody”. Idk if that makes sense. Basically she doesn’t always try very hard to have a relationship with me and if something hurts her feelings or bothers her she sort of just keeps it to herself.
I got engaged in January & my wedding is in July. My sister just got engaged this weekend and I imagine she won’t get married until maybe end of 2018. She and her Fiance are 24, which is kind of young around here so they have a lot of time.
Younger sisters- is there anything that annoyed you about being the second child to get married? Or about being engaged the same time as your sister? I want to be careful not to do anything to upset my sister.
Ex: My mom put something on Facebook for my sister’s engagement and it included something like “another wedding” (not in a bad way). I imagine words like “also” probably make my sister feel a little less special. It might bother me.
Post # 2
Your sister sounds a little like mine. I’m the oldest and have always enjoyed “hanging out” with my family whereas my sister likes to do her own thing.
I’ve been engaged since September and I think my sister will be getting proposed to this summer!
I’ve really enjoyed being on the same timeline as my sister and we’ve enjoyed looking at engagement rings and wedding things together. A lot of people told me I’m crazy but I really want my sister to get engaged before my wedding in December so we can be engaged at the same time.
I don’t have any advice as to how your little sister will feel, but I did want to say it can be really awesome to share such a special time with a little sister
Post # 3
I’m a younger sister and I wish I had been engaged at the same time to avoid the “Well you’re next!” comments at her wedding! I got engaged shortly after but it still put a lot of pressure on my fiance! I think it all depends on your relationship with your sister… if you’re close she’ll be excited for your day and there will be no “overshadowing” – she’ll understand your day is your day and hers will be hers. My sister and I aren’t very close and I know she would have been upset if I got engaged before her wedding because it would have taken some of the focus off the build up to her wedding.
The one thing that does bother me is everyone says “well at your sisters’s wedding it was like this..” which only bothers me because it’s like people want me to have the exact same wedding as my sister even though we’re totally different people. I feel like my plans aren’t “good enough” because my sister did it better. But I got over it, I love my sister and she loves me and our wedding is going to be amazing!
Post # 4
Me and my sister are also both currently engaged, however I am the older sister. She is far more “me, me, me” which is totally fine. My wedding will be much smaller (most likely eloping) It has far less bearing than you think to be engaged at the same time. Let her plan her wedding her way and you plan yours your way. Try giving her a touch more credit. maybe she will be just fine with everything.