Post # 1
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Newbee
Hi bees…
I have a small situation here… My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years now. After 5 months of dating, we bought a ring together & its been sitting in its box in the cupboard (its still there!). So we know for definate that we want to get married.
My sister got engaged to her boyfriend of 4 years this december just passed. It kinda screwed up my boyfriends’ plans as he was going to propose on our 2 yr anniversary. She’s getting married in June this year.
My question to you… When would it be appropriate for me to get engaged?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
@SmilingBride: I feel it’s appropriate to get engaged whenever you and your Fiance choose to do so.
Are you thinking your sister might get mad???
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Whenever your boyfriend decides to propose! Your relationship is separate from your sisters…you and your man need to do what’s right for the two of you!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
@SmilingBride: You can get engaged anytime….as long as it’s not on the dance floor at your sisters wedding! She gets one day. Get engaged now and pick a date that’s not a week from hers. That will just make everyone mad.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Agreed. He’s allowed to propose whenever he wants, with the possible of exception of the week of her wedding. 🙂
Your sister or some of her friends might get a little catty about a proposal close to hers, but they’re wrong. You and your bf can’t plan your life around everyone else.
If your sister gets a little upset, one thing you could do to help smooth things over is to make sure that she gets to have some time where she is “the bride.” Yes, each bride only gets “one day” but it would really suck to also have to share the dress shopping day, the showers, etc. You’ll get to be the sole bride for 6 months after she gets married! (Assuming you’re really doing 1/28/12.)
Congrats to both of you!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@MissTattoo: HAHA.. We both started with basically the same thing, I almost used your EXACT words.
Post # 8
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Newbee
I say get engaged as planned, her wedding wil be over before you know it.
Post # 9
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Newbee
Thanks Ladies, you’ve been a big help 🙂
Just one more thing… My sis & family dont know that my boyfriend & i have chosen a ring & want to get married. So the thought was that they would all think im doing it just to copy her.
Dont wanna tell the fam that we’ve had the ring for almsot 2 years… What are your thoughts on that?
Post # 10
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Worker bee
Go ahead and get engaged at the time that is best for you! My sister and I actually got engaged on the same day. I called her to tell her that I got engaged and she told me that she got engaged too! So we’ve both got weddings this year but having two doesn’t make either one of them any less special. I’m sure your family won’t think that you’re just doing it to copy your sister and will just be happy for you and your boyfriend. And if you don’t want to tell them you’ve had the ring for awhile, then don’t. It’s no one’s business but your own!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
My sister got engaged about 2 months before me. It really wasn’t a big deal and didn’t bother us at all..
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I feel like it’s ok to get engaged whenever, just make sure your wedding is far enough away from hers that guests won’t have a problem going to both of your weddings.
I’d hope your family won’t think that you’re just copying them. Marriage is a big deal, not something you do because everyone else is doing it. You’ve been dating for a while so they probably realize it’s a serious relationship.
Post # 14
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Worker bee
You can get engaged whenever it is the right time for you and your SO. Just make sure its not at your sisters wedding 🙂
Post # 15
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Newbee
YOu and your boyfriend should do whatever feels right for you. Its not big deal if you get engaged about the same time…its actually more fun for the family I think. I’ll say Just make sure your weddings are at least 3weeks apart.
