Engaged! Some thoughts

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
596 posts
Busy bee

Woohoo! Can we see the ring? It sounds beautiful. 

Post # 3
6293 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY


Post # 5
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Congrats!!!! I love your rubies!!

Post # 6
2909 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

It’s beautiful! I agree sometimes the advice given tends to be a bit harsh. It’s easier to tell someone what to do when you aren’t in their shoes. That’s the beauty of the internet. Lol

Wishing you the best! Congratulations!!!  

Post # 8
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Congrats! Beautiful ring.


I agree with you. Id like to see what some of these people lives are like that are giving advice 🙄 

Post # 9
2730 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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blondebeet :  Congrats. 

I tried to go back and see what was said in the previous about your convo and the advice given but it looks to be deleted. 

Oh well. Glad it worked out for you. Happy planning.

Post # 11
2352 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

congrats! My now husband did kind of the same thing, told me it would be a few years due to finances, we fought on it, then I agreed to drop it and wait a few years (which I was fine with as it had only been a year of dating). But all along he was in the process of purchasing a ring and planning a proposal. I mentioned this on another board and was told by other bees how disrespectful it was of him to do that, etc etc. 

Glad you trusted your man and your gut!!

Post # 12
1644 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

So happy for you bee!  The other bees just want to protect you.  Had you left he’d have communicated his plan sooner and you wouldn’t have had so much stress thinking “what is the hold up”.   I don’t know why men insist on lying to us and keeping us in the dark to the point of anger and depression all for the special surprise.  I’d rather have clear communication.  So glad it worked out for you!

Post # 13
187 posts
Blushing bee

Yeah. Some bees are harsh. That’s why you don’t follow a stranger’s advice on the internet. You can take it for what it’s worth, a stranger’s advice…. I +1 what a PP said, I’d like to see some of the lives if bees who give that advice. They are always quick to jump to conclusions and to me seem like that have never learned patience or compromise. 

Happy for you, bee!

Post # 14
3086 posts
Sugar bee

I’m an outlier, I suppose.  I’d prefer honesty over an upcoming surprise.  I’d rather be told “the ring is on order” then have my partner shut down and refuse to discuss engagement/marriage out of an attempt to keep a surprise proposal a secret.  

Post # 15
9141 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Congratulations. That kind of communication, or lack of, would not work for me, but since you’re ok with it, I’m glad things turned out how you wanted. Now you know that when he shuts down and refuses to talk about something, it means a sweet surprise is sure to follow.

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