Post # 1
So my fiancé and I have been engaged for almost 3 years (no wedding plans in site) and together for 6. We are both divorced, both have two kids (one of his has moved out). He made a comment the other day about living together (we currently do not live together due to logistics). He said, and I quote “I want to try out living together first”.
This caused several alarms and questions in my mind, but one popped out the most:
Why did he ask me to marry him if he just wants to “try it out?”
Post # 2
Is there a reason you’ve been engaged 3 years with no wedding plans?
Post # 3
julesca : so, I think the advice that people gave you a month ago on your situation is still relevant. From what you’ve said, I don’t know why you bother with this guy.
Post # 4
Oh Honey, no.
You’re never getting married.
At least not to him.
Stop ignoring the red flags.
Post # 5
thanks 🙂 I know this, we just sometimes need a little wake up call from an unbiased side. Time to have a chat with the man.
And for why no wedding plans? If there isn’t any moving in together, there isn’t going to be any wedding. I thought we would be building an addition to his home, which would increase the value I might add. He doesn’t know what he wants, so I’ve gotta take myself off of his “lay-away plan”. I am 39 years old with two teenaged girls… I don’t have time for this sort of life anymore.
Thanks for the validation 💜
Post # 6
- Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek
Based on your previous post this can’t be the only issue causing alarms to go off. As stated above I think the advice already given is still relevant.
There are billions of men on this earth. Once you let go of this loser it’ll be a lot easier to find one who actually wants to marry you. If thats still your goal.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
If he’s not even sure if he can live with you, why in the world did he propose? Also, being engaged for three years with absolutely NO wedding plans set or in sight is not okay in my book. You two are not young and inexperienced, you both are old enough to know what you want and how to make it happen ( I can assume since you both are divorced with grown children in the mix). Hell, I was 27 when I started dating my now Fiance’ and even then I knew I was not in it to waste time, luckily he felt the same way as we are only a few months apart in age.
Post # 8
I’m the same age as you and I think being together 6 years and not living together yet is a big red flag.