(Closed) engaged with no proposal

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

I personally like the low key proposals because they are a little unexpected. It sounds like the proposal was true to his personality, so you know he means it. I suppose you could talk with him about it, but I think it’s adorable as is. Congratulations on the engagement! 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

getting the exact ring you want is awesome, i’m willing to bet very few proposals are “fairytale”, it’s way more exciting that you have no doubt this is the man you want to spend forever with, and CONGRATULATIONS!!

i also picked out my own ring, and let my Fiance know that when it was ready i’d like to have it given to me, you know, special haha. (which he did, but again no fairy tale lol!) i’d suggest just telling your Fiance you’d like something special out of receiving your ring now! that’s what i consider the proposal and when we started sharing we were officially engaged, as like you we had already decided to get married prior to that. i think that’s how it goes w adults sometimes hahaha. 😉 congrats again!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Backyard

My proposal was super casual as well. We’d just bought a new house and had renovated the garden. One night I looked outside and said how perfect it would be to have a backyard wedding and that I couldn’t imagine anything better. He just looked at me and said, “Okay then, let’s do it.” And I wouldn’t have it any other way. There is nothing more romantic than someone asking you to spend your life with them so to me I didn’t need anything else 🙂

Trust me, on your wedding day, you’re not going to care how the proposal came because you’re going to be so happy and ecstatic just that it happened. Congratulations and good luck!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

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marimae:  I got my proposal on the phone. It went something like this:

Him: “I think we should get married. Will you marry me?”

Me: “I think we should too. Yes.”

I then received my ring in the mail because we were in a LDR, LOL 

Super romantic? Not at all. My wedding day was though, and I am now married to the sweetest, most thoughtful man who makes me feel special every day. He just really sucks at grand romantic gestures and giving gifts.

I know there is pressure for a “proposal story” because of social media. Just remember that after you are actually married, people will no longer ask or care about he proposed.

Post # 6
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Newbee

We have been together for 14 years so I didn’t expect any kind of fairytale proposal and I did get to pick out my ring. When I picked it up after work I put it on right away I was so excited. When I showed it to the Mr already on my finger he was a little upset since he wanted to be the one who put it on my finger for the first time. I guess I ruined that for him. haha

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

In your first sentence you stated your guy isn’t the romantic type but yet you’re disappointed by his non-proposal. If he’s not the romantic type how can you expect him to do something that isn’t natural for him? I’m sure there are so many other sides of him you treasure more. What if he delivered the ultimate fairytale marriage proposal but failed at ______ (fill in the blank).

 

I’ve been married 3 years and never had a proposal either. I would rather have what my husband says to me everyday than what he could have said to me ONE day. There are things I know he’ll never do for me but what he does do outshines everything!! We went to Disneyland over the holidays and there must have been at least 4 or 5 marriage proposals in front to Sleeping Beautys castle and while it was sweet to see I know that he’d never do anything like that. How can I ask the man I fell in love with to be anything but who he truly is?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Congratulations on your engagement!  As PP stated, the proposal was according to his personality, as most proposals are.  Enjoy planning your wedding and look forward to this new stage in your lives.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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marimae:  “proposal: an offer of marriage.”

you did get a proposal: he asked if you wanted to get married and to pick a ring. maybe it’s not a “romantic proposal” but it’s a proposal nonetheless.

since when is a man not wanting to spend his entire life with you not enough for ladies anymore?

you knew he was not the romantic type when you started dating him and continued to date him. You picked him. How can you honestly expect anything else if this is the man you picked?

Im not down playing your disappointmen, you have every right to feel this way. I’m just saying you can’t turn a poodle into a cocker spaniel. And that the man proposed, probably the best he could due to his limited abilities (romance).

congrats on your engagenent!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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marimae:  same here, we were discussing marriage, I found out I was pregnant and we ordered the ring from blue Nile. We picked it up at the fed ex store and that was it….lol later at dinner he got down on one knee but it certainly wasnt an over the top romantic thing. Fast forward three years, he’s not a romantic but he’s a wonderful man and a good provider and I’m so lucky to be with him! Forget about a “magical” proposal. I literally know someone who was whisked off to Paris and proposed to at the Jules Verne Restaurant by her now EX-HUSBAND…. Hope to have a magical marriage, and best wishes on your engagement!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

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marimae:  My husband proposed to me at 4 am in the morning, our daughter was asleep in her pack n play and we had just finished a movie.  I looked like crap honestly, it was in the dark with only a night light on and the ring was still in the jewelry drawer.  He told me he loved me more than he had ever love anyone in his life, he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, and some very romantic words, and I never even said yes.  And viola, engaged.  An engagement doesn’t need some big fancy romantic proposal.  What matters most is the two people getting engaged.

Get excited!!  You’re engaged!!  this is something to be excited and over the moon about, proposal or not.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My proposal story isn’t a fairytale proposal either but its mine and I wouldn’t have it any other way. In the end I am marrying a great guy. Nothing can top that. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

My dad proposed to my mum in the same way basically “fancy getting married, yeah? Ok pick a date and ill buy a ring” they have been married for 31 years. Sometimes low key is best! 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Congratulations on the engagement!

My Fiance and I made a mutual decision to get married a few months before we officially got “engaged”. He made the engagement official by doing a proposal, but there was no ring involved. We went shopping together so that I could pick out my own ring. Honestly, I preferred it that way 🙂 I see no need for ridiculous Hollywood-style extravaganzas!

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