(Closed) Engaged without a proposal?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@HappyInLove11:  For me, the hard part is not telling anyone about our planning. We each have told one friend, but we are keeping it a secret otherwise until he formally proposes. People get really finicky and judgy about it.

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

So I too didn’t have much of a proposal. My guy and I had talked on and off about getting engaged, rings, and marriage. But in the weeks/month prior to my birthday (the night I got engaged) we had not as much. I did know that he had made plans to pick me up from work and take me out to dinner for my birthday. Once we got to the location of the restaurant he asked if I wanted to take a look at the waterfalls nearby since we were early for our reservation. I of course said sure, it was a rather cool evening in late may so he was holding me to keep me warm and then all of a sudden was like I have a proposal for you (he is an attorney so for him to make this statement was not unusual and most often went something like this: I propose we eat dinner here then go do this or I pick you up so we can do this kinda thing.) I was like okay and was waiting for the second half of the statement to be something like after dinner lets go for a walk or see a movie. But to my surprise he said “if I gave you a ring would you marry me?” I was kinda taken back and was like sure, yeah I would. He followed by saying “well I have one” I and I asked where, he said “in my pocket” and I then asked which one at this time he had both hands in his pocket and kinda moved his arm to indicate his left one and he said I could take it out which I did and I was soo shocked. It is the most beautiful ring ever… I took it out of the box and had him put it on me. He was like am I supposed to do that, I smiled and laughed. It was just a very non-traditional way of getting engaged, but very much fit our personalities. I wouldn’t want to change it!

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We talked about getting married for one year before we agreed I could go ahead and start planning a wedding for the following year.  That was last fall that I started planning,I would tease him a little though, nothing to hurt his feelings, but just to let him know I still wanted a proposal.   I got my proposal this past weekend.   Nothing elaborate, he just presented me with the ring and asked me.  which is all I could ask for, and great because the invites are going out Monday.

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Same for us, we’ve been living for a year together and we bought my engament and wedding bands but he never really did a serious proposal, sometime he would ask just playing around…but this morning he was in bed with the rings on his hand and asked me to sit next to him and seriously proposed…i was like huh? so he took out his cell and his eight year old was singing in a video “say yes please say yes!! my daddy is the best, say yes!” i had tears in my eyes and said yes….it was nothing fancy but it was super sweet and unexpected…sometimes the little things are the ones that count….so I finally got my proposal 🙂

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We were engaged without a real proposal. We talked about it for awhile, and discussed the ring I would want. We even started picking our date before he even got the ring. I was already telling family members, I’m getting married! And then won’t day we went and bought the ring together, and that was it! 🙂 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I didn’t really get a proposal at all.  We picked the ring out together in February, he held onto it for several months, apparently trying to plan the perfect proposal which never happene.  Last week we went to go look at venues, found one we loved, booked the date and put down the deposit.  Before we went looking he told me to put on the ring, which I did.  I had it on the entire day than put it back into it’s box.  The next morning when I went to leave for work, he asked me if I was upset with him, I said no and he said “well why are you wearing your ring.”  So from that point on we were engaged.  He says he’s still planning on going through with the proposal but we’ll see.

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

One night we decided to get married shortly after moving in together. We booked our venue 3 days later. I told him not to buy an e-ring as I do not wear jewelry.  It is really weird when people congratulate us on our engagement and they first thing they do is look for a ring. My answer is always that we made an adult decision to get married. Also, our venue is quite pricey so we definitely didn’t need to spend money on a ring that I would end up wearing much. It just works for us – but I feel like I’m a minority in this type of situation. Lol. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MirnaMinkoff:  We had to have serious converstations about date setting for the exact same reason – we have to get married for him to stay here. We COULD have gone the courthouse route, but he really wanted it to be in a church. That took lots of conversations about timeline – and left very little room for surprise proposals!

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@HappyInLove11:  We’re in the exact same place. We just talked about it a lot and then realized one day we had made up our minds. We’ve booked the venue and church, the photographer, etc, everyone we are close to knows, but I don’t have a ring and there was never a proposal. He’s going to do one this November-ish. I told him he didn’t have to, but he really wants that moment. It’s sort of exciting, in a weird way.

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@PrincessPork:  Love this story!! It’s so sweet and reminds me of my Fiance and I.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No formal proposal, no ring (still picking it out and our wedding is in two months!) but we’re engaged.  

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@glitternails:  Thanks! I smile and think about that day whenever I look at my awesome ring!

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