- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
So, I’ve been posting here for a while now but I never really got to explain my situation. Basically, my love is in the military, which is our go-to explanation for all of our off-beat behavior. We have been together since way before he even left for basic training and now he has been in the Army for just over 3 years. He was supposed to get out next September but a couple of months ago he called me on Skype and we decided together that he should stay in the Army. This is for a few reasons: 1) He really loves his job, and 2) It will give us some financial stability as I’m just coming out of grad school and looking for a job. Originally, we decided that when he moved to his new post he would live off-post and I would live with him. Being unmarried in the Army is inconvenient, but it’s do-able. Still, it wasn’t sitting well with me. We had been talking about getting married for a while and I figured a proposal was probably coming around the holidays. When I started doing the math, however, I realized that since he’s moving posts next January (2014), we would have to be married by October in order for him to get housing for both of us. It was on my mind for a couple of days and finally one day while we were on Skype, I said “I think we should get married next fall”. He said he agreed and told me to start looking for a venue. The next thing I know I’m calling my parents to tell them the (weird) news and booking appointments at venues.
Now, I have almost everything booked and set up for our wedding next September, but I still don’t have a ring on my finger. I know that I’m going to get one next month when we see each other on his Christmas leave and that’s when we’ll tell our extended families what is going on. So basically, I’ve been engaged for almost 3 months and no one but our immediate family members and best friends know. It’s torture.
Honestly, I feel like I missed out on something by not having that special proposal. We have a complicated, mixed-up tale to tell our grandkids instead of a romantic story.
What do you bees think? Do any of you have a similar, off-beat story?