Post # 1
So, I read a lot of posts on here about bee’s in waiting and how they are not sure if their significant other is ever going to propose. On top of that, there is background stories of how their partner can’t talk about the future, they can’t get the money together for a ring after several weeks/months/years of saving, or some other excuse. Lot’s of women on here continue to ask for advice as to what they should do in their particular situations, and almost each time the answer is, “He doesn’t want to marry you, move on.”
However, there are bee’s who have been in waiting for YEARS and they continue to wait because their relationship is healthy and they know a proposal is well on it’s way. So I guess my question here is this:
When did you and your significant other figure out that you were meant to be with one another, how long did you date, and when did you get engaged or married?
For me, my fiance and I knew we loved one another after two weeks, discussed marriage after three months, and were engaged in after ten months of dating. We will be married next year in October. We bought our first house this year and we have a pretty great life together!
My friends who are engaged/married have similar stories, but dated a bit longer than we did. My friends who were in a relationship for a few years knew that they didn’t want marriage quite yet or were fine with what their relationship was.
Just curious of other stories!
Post # 2
justinsgirl2016: My Darling Husband and I dated for 8 years before he proposed. I knew very early on that I wanted to marry him and he did to but was a little slower on our timeline. He has said 6 years since we were both very young. I was compeltely fine with that. I was 18 and he was 19 when we started dating. I knew I didn’t want to get married to young. We were both in school and we both knew that we needed to be settled before making a commitment. We did have our problems through those years and it was because of marriage. He thought that I wanted to get married soon and he wasn’t ready. We had a good talk about marriage and where our relationship was going and he proposed. In days when I would get mad I would tell him if I don’t get a proposal by the time I am 30 I am walking LOL. I knew he wouldn’t got that far without proposing. Once I knew we were settled I knew a proposal as on its way. I came a whole year early and was caught completely by suprise. Our one year anniversary is this Sunday 12/13
Post # 3
MrsNino: I LOVE this!! Congratulations to you both and happy one year! Cheers to many, many more!
Post # 4
We dated for 11 months before he proposed. I knew two months in that I loved him, and about 6 in that I wanted to marry him. We married 2 years and 18 days into our relationship.
Post # 5
My future hubby and I met senior year in college. Dated for 2-1/2 years (One of those years we lived cross country because we found jobs in different states). I left my job and got a job near him so we moved in together. 9 months later he proposed! We had already started looking for houses but we didn’t buy till we were engaged. We will be engaged for a year and 4 months when we get married next year. So pretty typical timeline.
Post # 6
Your poll is difficult to answer because I doubt very many relationships would fall into all three categories of the response.
We fell in love at first sight, and said we loved each other very quickly. We were engaged 2 years later, and married a year after that 🙂
Post # 7
It was love at first sight for me – but I was young (16), and thankfully mature minded enough not to give in so easily to young emotions (scared of getting hurt, despite my heart bursting with joy), so I kept it on the downlow. We said ‘i love you’ after 6 months (I waited for him to say it first), moved in together at 1 year, bought a house together in the third year, and FINALLY are engaged after 9 years together. We will have been together a decade when we marry. But again, I’m still relatively young (25 now), so the wait was reasonable. However, even if there was no ring, our love for each other wouldn’t change. He’s the one, regardless of circumstance. Very blessed 🙂
Post # 8
Mrs. Narwhal: haha I figured it was a bit difficult, I just ran out of ideas and I felt there were like…2o34uo2345903457803485 options that could be up there. But I’m happy that you shared yours!!! I’m just very curious about relationships and marriage and timelines and all! 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
Hmm… I don’t really fit in any of those categories. We date in high school for like 3 months. Then didn’t talk for 8 years. Reconnected on Facebook (I know, I know), dated about a year, moved in, then about 1.5 years later he proposed. Getting married 16 months after proposal. All in all, we’ll have been together just over 4 years when we get married.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
justinsgirl2016: We knew we liked each other after the first time we met each other, but it took us 3 years to start officially dating. Then about another month or so to use the “L” word (love, lol). Two years after that to start discussing marriage, and 3.5ish years of dating before he proposed. We’ll have been together for 5 years and 9 months (exactly, I just counted) when we get married, but I’ll have known him for almost 9 years when we tie the knot. We’re still young and not in any rush. Plus I’m enjoying taking everything slowly and feeling super prepared for every step we take together (i hate feeling unprepared or surprised. hate it).
So I know we’re on the slower side, but it made sense for us since we met at university and neither of us could imaging seriously planning a marriage when we still had at least a few degrees we wanted to complete and careers we wanted to start, first.
Post # 11
My relationship didn’t fit the parameters of your poll. We said I love you around 6 months of dating, were engaged after 3 1/2 years together and had a 6 month engagement. It’s not normative in my circles to date for more than a year or two before getting engaged, but we were right out of college when we started dating and had a lot of growing up to do before we were ready to be married. My Darling Husband would tell you he knew he wanted to marry me within months of us starting to date, but he waited because he wasn’t ready to be married yet.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement
We don’t really fit any of the options, so I said “other”. I knew I had very strong feelings for him to begin with. This was heightened by the fact that we knew we would be in a LDR for 5 months. When I first met him and my best friends in person, it hurt knowing that I had to leave (it was my winter break, I was here visiting over New Year’s 2013/2014) and wouldn’t be back to visit for three months. A couple weeks later, a couple weeks into being a couple we realized that we truly loved each other. I visited over my spring break for a few days, and once again, leaving was hard. Then, on June 1st, I moved down here. I moved in with him after 5 months together.
Fast forward to October 1st of this year, we had been talking about getting married for months. I found a gown I liked while browsing sites just because I enjoy browsing, he told me that I should make an appointment to try on gowns, I said it was weird because we weren’t engaged yet, and then he stood up, took my hand and got me to stand up, and then he proposed.
So it was basically strong feelings right away, love after a couple weeks, and we were engaged at about one week shy of 1 year and 9 months together. Our wedding is now 10 months and 12 days away. Feels like forever to wait sometimes, but on New Year’s Day, we will already be at 3 months engaged.
Post # 13
Met him on a Wednesday, knew I loved him on the Monday, told him on the Wednesday (1 week together – luckily he felt the same… his reply was “thank God”)
Engaged within a year; we just knew even a couple of months in that we would stay together and we never even had “a talk” about marriage, we just naturally kept saying things like “when we get married” and “when we have kids” in conversation and we knew it was right because it didn’t ever feel weird.
Married just over a year later – I wanted to honeymoon in Florida in October and wanted to be together at least 18 months before getting married (I find from experience that if a relationship is going to go wrong, that’s when the red flags really pop up).
It’s just been so easy in comparison to other relationships, I can’t believe I fought so hard in the past for something that was so difficult and obviously doomed to fail… you live and learn. 🙂
Post # 14
We met when I was nearly 17, so young for me. Said I love you after about 3 months and got together ‘oficially’ a few weeks after that. Then were together all through my university years, spending half our time on trains up and down the UK to visit each other. I moved in with him last year when I graduated, after more than 4 years together, and we bought a house a few months later. We got engaged this February and have been married for 2 months now!
I don’t really know when either of us ‘knew’… we just kept going, and then by last year sort of had to decide this was forever when we were looking at houses after 5 years together I suppose!
Post # 15
Mine doesnt really fall into any of these. We started dating in High School so thats why. We knew we loved eachother after about 2 months, & knew we would be married eventually after about a year, got engaged after 3.5 years, married just about at 5 years together!