(Closed) Engaged/Married Bee's – poll question!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you know they were the "one"? When did you get engaged? Time before you got married?
    Love at first sight! Engaged after days/weeks! Married after weeks/months! SO IN LOVE! : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Love after a few weeks, engaged after a few months, married before a year of being together. : (15 votes)
    7 %
    Love after a few months, engaged after a year or so, married before two years of being together. : (52 votes)
    25 %
    Love after a few months, still not engaged an not in any rush. : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Love after a year or so, engaged several years later, still not sure of a wedding date! : (17 votes)
    8 %
    Other : (117 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 46
    Member
    219 posts
    Helper bee

    We met in August 2010 at freshman orientation for college. We started dating November 2010, said “I love you’s” around new years 2010, moved in together May 2012. I didn’t really care about marriage for awhile. We had serious engagement talks around August 2014 to get engaged in maybe a year or two. We got engaged September 2015 and haven’t set a date yet. We might elope soon(ish) and do a vow renewal/party on July 22, 2017 because of potentially moving across the country in 2016.

    Post # 47
    Member
    6272 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Met in oct. both knew it was serious by Dec. He led the ‘forever’ discussions. By April we’d kinda planned our wedding between us. Engaged ‘officially’ /announced in July. We are currently in an 11 month engagement with our wedding next June.

    I should add that we are 38 and 40 so both been around a bit and had our fair share of ups and downs and both know ourselves and what we want together. 

    Post # 48
    Member
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Love after a few months, engaged at 4.5 years and we’ll be married on our 6th anniversary.

    Post # 49
    Member
    4065 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We dated for 6 years before getting engaged, 7.5 before getting married. I was only 19 when we met, and 26 when we got married (which in my circle was considered really young). We knew early on we would get married, but agreed to finish school/establish our careers etc before getting married. Darling Husband proposed about a year after we were both done school and in our “grown up” jobs.

    Post # 50
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Love was after a month or so of knowing each other, engaged after 3 1/2 years, we’ll be married after 4 1/2 years (one year engagement).

    Post # 51
    Member
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    justinsgirl2016:  I feel like you’re going to get an awful lot of “other” votes. We were love in a few months, moved in after a couple of years, engaged one year after that, and then married yet another year later. We’ve now been married for one year although we’ve been a couple for six and living together for three. 

    Post # 52
    Member
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    justinsgirl2016:  Love was at about 6 months, engaged after being together a year after that and married 1 1/2 years after the proposal (This April :)…)

    Post # 54
    Member
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Your poll options are weird to me… We first said I love you less than 3 months in, started talking about marriage at about 8 months, he proposed at a year and 5 months, and we got married almost 2 years and 9 months after our first date.

    Just because we fell in love fairly quickly didn’t mean we were in a hurry to get engaged. In fact, I specifically told him I didn’t want to be engaged until we’d been in love for at least a year. Especially since we were only 21 and 23 when we started dating, why rush? And even when he did propose, I was so excited and happy to be engaged, but I don’t think I was actually 100% ready to get married. But that’s not even the reason we were engaged for a year and three months, that was just what worked best for us logistically.

    I guess I’m lucky that Darling Husband and I have always been on the same page with our relationship. I don’t think either of us felt like we were being rushed by or waiting on the other. We got engaged before purchasing my engagement ring, so that I could pick it out after the fact, but if it had been a matter of saving up for it I think we still would have gotten engaged when we did. You don’t have to have a ring or pick a wedding date or even year to be engaged, it can be simply a decision made as a couple. But conversely, you can book your wedding venue before a formal marriage proposal. Different strokes for different folks.

    Post # 55
    Member
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure

    We don’t really fit into any of the categories either. We were dating for about two months and I professed my love for him. He told me after we were together for 6 months. I moved in with him after we were dating for a year. Then a year later, he proposed. He proposed the end of September. We are marrying at the end if April in 2017. I’m 36, he is 39. 

    Post # 56
    Member
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    justinsgirl2016:  I knew I loved him pretty quickly.. Within a couple of weeks. We got engaged 2 years and 1 month after we started dating 

    Post # 57
    Member
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    we were dating for about three months before we said I love you. we’ve been together for five years now, and will be getting engaged by the end of the year. we discussed marriage earlier into our relationship (1-2 years) and it was always, one day yes, but not right now. then his group of friends started getting engaged and married and the pressure was on! haha not really, but I think it made him reevaluate his “one day” into a “now”.

    Post # 58
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    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    justinsgirl2016:  Another “Other” vote haha. We knew we loved each other after a few months, were engaged after 3.5 years, and are planning our wedding for January 2017 (a 20 month engagement).

     

    Fiance is 5 years older than me, and so he was ready earlier than I was, but we also had different milestones we needed to meet before being comfortable marrying. We met when I was 21, and I certainly wasn’t in the market for getting married at that age. I told him I wanted to wait 5 years before getting married and we are right in the timeline.

    Post # 59
    Member
    1653 posts
    Bumble bee

    After I started dating my SO, one day about 2-3 months I said to him, I think Im going to have to marry you someday.  I cant remember what his reply was but ever since then we have talked about it, we have even ring shopped. This year coming we are supposed to get engaged I just asked him the other day being the bee that I am..”whats your timeline” and laughed, he said this year 2016 engaged and married in 2017.  He knows I want to be involved in the ring process, and he says thats fine, but I will not know when he will propose as he wants it a complete surprise.  We will have our two year dating anniversary this Jan, so im guessing engaged by 2.5 years married by 3.5. 

    Post # 60
    Hostess
    3892 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    We fell in love fast – definitely said “I love you” after a few weeks of dating – but we were only 18. We got engaged at 26 and will get married next year at 27 🙂 We both always knew that we would get married, but wanted to finish school first (I’m a lawyer, so I graduated last year and then had to take the bar; he has his MS and graduated a year before me). Even though it took us longer than most, it was and is the perfect timing for us 🙂

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