Post # 1
Prior to proposing, did your SO make a big show of how it wasnt happening anytime in the near future? I’m noticing a pattern of him at least every other day, on his own, mentioning how he’s “SO FAR” from having saved for a ring, or how he’s shooting for the next six months but isnt “making any promises because the money just ISNT there” etc.
If it were me, and I were a man, I wouldnt carry on about it everyday…unless it was a ruse of some sort. SO is a terrible liar and and even worse actor, and it just seems like he’s phoning it in.
Did any of you experience the soon-to-propose SO using tactics to convince you its not happening anytime soon?
Post # 3
I think my SO is doing the same thing by constantly saying “if it was this time next year”….like we are having some difficulties with my ering that is being custom made & my SO keeps saying “well it’s a damn good thing that we weren’t doing this at this time next year, we’d have a problem”…I’m pretty sure we’re not waiting a whole year to get engaged, we discussed doing it before the holidays this year so I THINK she’s just trying to throw me off but at the same time I don’t want to think that because if she’s not I know I’ll be sad over the holidays lol
Post # 4
@soontobemrsm11: I’ve heard the “next year” line come up too. I think they’re just being tricky….or i hope so at least :-p
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Post # 6
@badabing88: No, there were no tactics or hints that it was not happening. We knew it was happening and were preparing for it (like getting his closet cleared out for my clothes!)
Post # 7
Not really. We both knew it was coming. I knew he bought a ring. And I knew it was happening by January lol
Post # 8
We got engaged January 2012 and in October 2011, we were at Oktoberfest and he kept saying “you know we aren’t going to get engaged for a long time right?” i got upset because we had been together for awhile and living together for a year but you know how they say you speak the truth when you’re drunk? well, i guess his “long time” was only 3 months! Hang in there, it’ll be worth it!
Post # 10
No, we were very transparent about the whole thing. We picked out the diamond, then the ring, together, then I told him to surprise me. It took him only a few days to not be able to wait any longer.
Post # 11
Nope. I had no idea what was going on after we found the ring that I wanted. I remember (before we found the ring, but while we were ring shopping) thinking that he was going to propose on a vacation that we took after I graduated (August). He didn’t, and I cried the whole way home. 🙁 He felt awful and said that it was coming within the next year, so I was sort of okay after that. The we found The Ring a couple of months later (November or December), and he proposed in February.
Post # 13
Nope. He was pretty open with me about the ring, I knew when it was ordered, and when it was getting made. I had a hint that it would happen around the time that it did. He actually acted very natural on the day he proposed. Not anxious, didn’t talk about it. It was a regular day. We went for a very typical walk in the park we always go to. As soon as he started saying sweet things and holding me close, I knew it was coming.
Sorry… sometimes guys really just mean what they say.
Post # 14
No but he’s not the “pranking” type, so he’d not be the kind of person to be like, “Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t have time to do anything for your birthday this year” … “Suprise!! A big surprise party!” Also, we weren’t in that stereotypical situation where the woman wants to get engaged sooner and is prodding the guy, who is taking longer, to hurry up, so it wasn’t like a “he had a surprise for me” kind of thing.
So, I guess I could imagine other guys doing it, but you’d have to think whether your guy does things like that in general.
Post # 15
Nope. He took me to get the ring so I knew it was coming at some point. He’s also not much of a game playing type so he means what he says and does what he means.
I would take him at his word on this one.
Post # 16
I had no idea it was coming, and quite frankly neither did he.
We had been living together for so long and he would often say- I feel like we’re already married. That would piss me off because we weren’t married and any time I brought it up he felt pressure.
We had discussed getting engaged before I agreed to move to MN (leaving my career and friends in LA) but I knew an engagement wasn’t feasable because of the move costs. Although, I remember being at the mall in May 2012, and stopping into Tiffany’s to look at my sister’s graduation gift. FH said to me “let’s go look at the rings” I panicked and pushed him out of the store… How silly of me, but all I could think is “we’re spending thousands to move, we can’t afford an expensive engagement ring right now”.
Instead of an engagement, I pushed for a domestic partnership and required a ring for that too. So we did that before we moved.
He ended up proposing 2 weeks after we moved to MN without a ring and I got to chose mine.