(Closed) Engagement & Weddings on FB

posted 7 years ago in Technology
  • poll: When you see a distant friend post engagement or wedding updates, how do you feel?
    Annoyed. Why do they have to use FB? There's WB, duh! : (0 votes)
    Happy for them. I'm pretty sure I won't get an invite but I'm still happy for them. : (38 votes)
    76 %
    Don't know how I feel but I do hope I get an invite. : (0 votes)
    I hate FB so anything on FB bothers me. : (0 votes)
    Neutral. Ehhh... I don't care. Sometimes it's annyoing, sometimes I like it. : (12 votes)
    24 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Doesn’t bother me at all.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I feel the same! I chose that I’m happy for them regardless of an invite or not. I think love and marriage are a beautiful thing that blesses people!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I voted happy for them- but if it’s someone consistently crying about things going wrong with their planning I’ll block them till their wedding is over. 

    Also- I don’t update my FB with wedding planning stuff, just changing my status to ‘engaged’ brought pests out of the woodworks asking for invites to the wedding. I don’t want people to think about it very often, haha!

    Post # 5
    Member
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m happy for them. The only thing that bothers me (and bothered is really too strong a word), is when they post photos of their rings. Only because I, personally, am not of the bragging sort (especially on FB!). It makes me feel like I’m being “show off-y”. I know not everyone feels that way, that’s just my take on it. I also know it’s FB so I really don’t pay too much attention. It’s really a minor annoyance.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t get why people get so up in arms about what other people post on their Facebook. As long as no one on my friends list is posting anything racist, sexist, porn, or hatred towards gays, then I’m okay.

    If not, then there is the hide option. I don’t get why people can’t talk about their weddings or engagement. Some people say you shouldn’t because you aren’t inviting everyone on your list. I’m sure people use common sense and know if they are going to be invited or not.

    I’ve always loved wedding updates though. Facebook makes it so much easier to creep other people’s photos. A distance cousin just got married. We weren’t invited and that’s fine, but I loved looking at her photos. I wasn’t offended or annoyed that she talked about her wedding even though I wasn’t invited.

    That’s not to say that I haven’t hid posts from people who won’t stop talking about their rings, posting photos of it, talking about how much her future hubby wubby (you only get 3 strikes on my page if you use hubby wubby. then you get to spend time on the hide list) loves her because he got her the perfect ring, and about being stressed out two years from the wedding date. lol
    I usually send them a message to join Weddingbee after I hide their posts.

    Post # 7
    Member
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t understand why someone announcing something like that on Facebook would be irritating. I use Facebook mainly to keep up with friends I don’t live near anymore. It’s nice to know what’s going on in people’s lives, be it weddings, births graduations etc.

    I’m happy when people are experiencing positive things in their lives.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Doesn’t matter to me.  A GOOD friend got engaged and married before us and we’ve been engaged way longer.  Love the guy, but his wife…. not so much, lol.  

    As for everyone else, meh.  It’s nice, glad they’re happy, but…. doesn’t really bother me.  (I do find it amusing that one friend had A LOT of things similar to our wedding… which my Fiance and I laughed about.)

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I’m generally happy for them and like seeing ring/engagement/wedding photos 🙂

    The only time it bothers me is if it’s a couple making really dumb relationship decisions (I can think of one case of that in particular), and that was just because it reminded me every time of what a bad decision it was.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    One time I had a couple on my FB who were all ‘hubby wubby’ during their engagement (LOL@Miss Tattoo:) then the day they came back from their honeymoon they were all dramatically angry at eachother.  It was weird it’s like they were TRYING to fit a social ‘norm’ of being married? She’d post stuff like ‘my husband can’t even get his laundry in the basket, I swear why did I marry this guy…’ and he’d say ‘another one of my wives dry sandwiches. Oh joy’  I had to block them both…it was really strange.

    Post # 11
    Member
    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It doesn’t bother me. However, I have hidden posts from someone because she posts several wedding updates a day and has posted pictures of all the details. I think I should suggest to her that she should come here and induldge in all this wedding goodness, this way her guests/friends have something left to their imagination as they anticipate the couple’s big day!

    Post # 12
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Posting the actual engagement and married relationship status? Go right ahead. Duh. Even update some people.

    Blow up my feed with 394349833 back to back posts about your “future hubby” or anything that makes me cringe? I’ll either block your posts till after or delete you, depending on who you are. I just don’t want to read it all.

    Actually, I can’t stand some of the unnecessarily graphic BABY updates. I do not need to know (or care) about: breastfeeding, diaper changes, sick babies, crying babies, something nasty you found in Jr’s room, etc etc etc. Oh, or how dilated you’ve been for 34 hours, how much childbirth hurts, your child’s spit up, your vag. Just…no.

    Post # 13
    Member
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I feel happy for them. Since I got engaged, I’ve felt the need to post a lot about wedding stuff on FB, at least when it’s something signifigant. I usually post each month as it gets closer for us at least. I do believe that posting over and over again about the same topic no matter what it is becomes annoying eventually in general. My motto is those that don’t want to hear about it can just hide me from their news feed. It is natural to be excited and wanna talk about the wedding a lot when you’re engaged.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Miss Tattoo: LOL hubby wubby. Yeah, I’d be blocking that, too!

    I odn’t mind when friends post wedding updates, as long as it isn’t overly done. I have a friend getting married next weekend, and I probably see an update once a week or every other week – that’s not much at all!

    When FH and I got engaged, I did post a ring photo, but in no way did I make it a profile picture! I self-justified it to myself b/c I have a lot of family on my FB that I don’t have emails for, and we don’t live near any family or friends.

    I personally don’t think I’ll do much status updates about the wedding, we’re 9+ months out, and I’ve already had two friends I haven’t seen in years(!) invite themselves that won’t be on the guest list, and they both came out of nowhere. One even told me she was doing my makeup! Um, no, you aren’t.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Occasionally I’ll roll my eyes when it becomes the only thing they post about, but I don’t really mind it. I don’t post about it, for the most part. I uploaded pictures of my shoes, our engagement pictures and changed my status. I want a small wedding so I’d rather not post about it and have friends potentially be hurt about not being invited.

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