- 4 years ago
Sooo let’s see where do I begin…My husband had kept in contact with one of his exes most of the time we were together before we got married. When we were dating he would text and message her but i did’t know she was his ex. I thought she was just a friend. So i let it go….about a month after we got engaged i found out he was messaging her once again. but they just got back in touch. His phone rang and the caller id had the letter ‘k’. i was shocked and just froze. My heart dropped. When he came home from work i asked him about it. He lied and said it was nothing but i asked him again and finally he said yes thats kelsey. I just froze. I didn’t know what to say. Here the man that I’m in love with is messaging his ex girlfreind. I read some of the earlier conversations and he messaged her saying “Hey how are you?? etc etc…nothing really serious and she said “will she like this” (shes referring to me) and he replied back saying “oh yeah its not a problem, you and I are just friends” then they went on for a little bit about what was going on in their lives. after that they exchanged phone numbers. My fiance looked at me and started crying…saying that he loves me and that they are just friends. He messaged her on facebook and said “PLEASE TELL MY FIANCE THAT THERE IS NOTHING GOING ON BETWEEN ME AND YOU” and she replied back saying “haha no we haven’t seen each other in years”. My fiance even messaged her on facebook from my messages so that i could talk to her. she never replied back. He then said that we could call her and talk to her so we can settle everything. I felt like it would have been awkward and i didn’t even though now i wish i had. I’m not sure exactly what they talked about for those couple of weeks. Soon after my fiance got rid of his cell phone. He said it was causing to many problems. Because i loved him i forgave him. I figured i was over reacting.Everything was fine up until about 4 months later in November of 2013. My fiance messaged her again on facebook saying “hey, hows everything…im moving to louisiana.” she replied back saying everything was good. He then asked for her number. After that everything must have taken place via texting on the cell phone. I was unaware this was going on. During the time we were in Louisiana everything seemed fine. There was only two times he was cold to me but nothing major happend to make me think he was doing anything behind my back. We lived with his brother and their friend and they never felt like anything was wrong between him and I. All of this started happening in November of 2013. He first got rid of his phone I believe in Dec. of 2013 for whatever reaso and got it agian in late January of 2014. He then got rid of the the celll phone again for the second time in either June or July. During July we were planning our small wedding. We got married in September of 2014. We have been married for a year and a half now.Everything has been great although we did go through a miscarriage. I remember soon after we got married he told me that she tried adding him on facebook again. He never added her. We seemed to be doing really well up until now. After the miscarriage i was going through a really difficult time. I went on my laptop and his facebook was open. I snooped and this is where it go me. i regret it and i know i am very wrong for doing it. This is where i noticed that he messaged her before we went to louisiana. Who knows how long they talked for…or what they were talking about…Why would he message her again after what happened the first time??? I don’t get it. When i brought it up to him he was upset and told me this happened two years ago..and was like “ok, you caught me”I couldn’t believe it. He told me they were just “friends” I feel like he was getting cold feet before getting married. Idk.. I know for sure the last time he messaged her or so i think was when we were in Louisiana. He hasn’t messaged her since we have been married. I feel like i was his second choice. If i would have know that he hit her up on facebook the second time i would have probaubly walked away. He wants to try to start a family with me again. It’s like im hesitating….i don’t know what to do.
P.S. Sorry for the long story.