(Closed) Engagement

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think lying to you is good and definitely warrants discussion.

However, I am having difficulty grasping why it’s so terrible he’s having a completely platonic discussion with his ex. Maybe it’s because I talk with the ex I left for my husband on a near daily basis. We’re good friends, and nothing will come of it.

Post # 3
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706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you are over reacting. It really doesn’t seem like there is or was something going on between them during his relationship with you. Just because he have chosen to be with you he shouldn’t have to cut everything from his history out of his life. And it does seem like he cut the contact with her before only because he was afraid of losing you, and not because he really wanted her out of his life. I personally don’t have any problem with my husband sometimes having a little small talk with his exes. It’s just small talk. And I want to be able to do the same without my husband being suspicions. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

First of all: paragraphs. 

Second of all: I’m a bit confused. You’re upset about something that happened two years ago? Is that right? And all the evidence points to the fact that your husband was telling the truth that this was a completely platonic friendship and yet you’re still upset? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

My Fiance talks to lots of his ex girlfriends. So what? Unless you found something that indicated they had some hot and steamy love affair behind your back I wouldn’t be so upset.

Also, I feel like her asking if you would like this was her trying to be considerate to your feelings. Maybe that’s just me.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

uughhh I’m so confused and I have so many questions.  All I could think to write after the 8th line was, all of this could have been avoided if he would have just ended contact.  I personally think it’s fishy for him to just toss his cell phone and get a new number because of ONE person?  All he had to do was say, “this relationship is making my woman uncomfortable.”  It doesn’t SEEM like anything inappropriate was going on, but he should have been upfront from the beginning about who she actually was.

What’s he crying for if it’s it’s just a platonic relationship???

Nov 2013:  you say he’s messaging her again.  How did you know?  You went snooping through his FB account?

Look, if you keep looking for something, you’re going to find it.  And if you keep doing that you don’t trust him.  And if there’s no trust then……..

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

His phone was “causing problems” so he decided to get rid of it?  There has to be more to this story between the two of you.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The lying and getting rid of multiple phones is super suspect to me. I would hold off on trying to start a family until trust has been rebuilt (if that is even possible). Buhh, that’s just me. Do what you believe is best for you. 

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