(Closed) Engagement Advice – An unusual situation?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I vote do it now, before Christmas.  H proposed to me 2 weeks before Christmas and it was so much fun going home and sharing the news, in person, with my family and friends.

Also, tons of people get engaged at Christmas and then go venue hunting right after and places can book very fast.  We put a deposit down on our venue right before Christmas and then went back after to finalize a few more things.  The woman from the venue said that she had like 50 voicemails and emails when she returned from work from newly engaged couples trying to schedule appointments and that we were lucky we came in when we did.  So depending on how long of an engagement you want, it might be a good idea, logistically, to do it before Christmas.

Post # 4
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@fdc:  My personal opinion is that if she hasn’t seen her family in a while and they’re so far away, it might be good to propose before she sees them so that she can share the excitement over the holidays. You will still have plenty of time with her when she comes back!


As for rings, i didn’t have my engagement ring for months as I also was proposed to with a token ring and then went the custom route. As long as it’s not a big deal to her, I don’t see why not!

Post # 5
12241 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with doing it before her vacation!

Post # 6
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@fdc:  First, congratulations on reaching this stage of your relationship! It’s a really exciting time!

I agree with PPs. Ask her before Christmas. It will make her trip to see her family twice as special since she’ll have such amazing news to share. And, like you said, it would give her an amazing opportunity to do some wedding stuff with her mother and family as well.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
9120 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Definitely before!  I would be sooo much happier to be able to tell all my friends and family that I don’t see often, even with a stand-in ring.  And just having a few days together beforehand is fine – you’ll get to celebrate, and you have the rest of your lives to spend together 🙂  Congrats (in advance)!

Post # 8
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Do it now!! Then she can tell everyone and even look at rings, etc, which will help the family to be part of the excitement and everything! Also, becuase you don’t have that many days together, prolongs the happy feelings you get after you get engaged because they will be refreshed once you see each other again!!!

Post # 10
2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@fdc:  oooh you’re in london? take her skating at somerset house! or a winter picnic (hot chocolate and sweets) in covent garden? 

congrats! so exciting

Post # 11
1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I agree with everyone else on the christmas engagment. So romantic! Please come back and give us all the detail after!!

Post # 13
3370 posts
Sugar bee

@fdc:  If it feels like “why wait” then…why wait? lol. Do it asap! 

Post # 15
6734 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@fdc:  My advice is to do it now and propose with a solitaire – then use that center stone and change out the setting if she wants to. She may not want to since solitaires are classically beautiful and tons of women love them (I love them, even though it wasn’t my top choice, I wouldn’t have switched out my setting if that’s what my Fiance got me). But, do it now so she can spend that time planning – you will get to enjoy engaged bliss when she returns.

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