(Closed) Engagement Advice

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

….are you engaged?

ETA: There are a lot of growing pains when you first move in with someone. The extra fights might be because of that. It also sounds like he doesn’t trust you though, and trust is necessary for any relationship to work. If you feel like the trust issue can’t be fixed then I would leave. Taking a “break” almost always ends up in the couple breaking up and not getting back together. Which it doesn’t sound like would bother you. You need to decide if you love him enough to stick around, or if the lack of trust is too big of an issue and you should end things. I can’t really tell you what to do without more information.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@msuncontrollable:  It’s simple. If you want your life to be this way, go back to him. People don’t change.

I don’t care if he’s stressed by his job (I know military life is stressful but not all soldiers act this way) or whatever excuse he comes up with. He sounds like he just goes crazy over nothing. There’s only so much you can do. I understand people having the occasional freak-out, but this guy isn’t behaving normally.

I feel for you, but at least you’re not married. I’d stay away from him.

Post # 7
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9201 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I would be concerned if I were you.  He sounds controlling and verbally abusive.  That can only get worse….  Good luck  xoxox

Post # 8
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yes, I think it’s best that you leave.  This is not good.  These trust issues will not go away.

Post # 9
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

so sorry hun.  I think you are making the right decision by leaving though. 

Post # 10
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think what you are doing is brave and the right move.. stay strong *hugs*

Post # 11
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1526 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re going through that : ( I would leave. If a guy can’t trust you, it isn’t likely he is going to all of a sudden gain trust. He seems insecure, and I would get space and try to move on. It’s not fair to you to constantly have to beg for his forgiveness for things that you didn’t do (cheating).

Post # 12
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ugh…jealousy and controlling behavior is absolutely the worst habit a man can have and you are following the right instincts by leaving. Shut the door and do not look back.

He will apologize and call and promise to change, but he never will and you might as well lock yourself up in a cage because that is what your life will be like living with someone like that. You are doing the right thing.

There are a lot of men out there who could care less about what’s on your facebook and care more about making you happy on a daily basis than they do about the past. Go find one! You deserve better.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

he threw shit at you while screaming obscenities….this man is NOT husband material.

game over, he loses.

go home and don’t look back.

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