(Closed) Engagement and family drama

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that this is the time where you should be focusing on yourself and your relationship. You found your soul mate, and you can’t let your parents poison your upcoming wedding with their negativity.

That being said, I would just be direct and polite. Tell them this is happening with or without their support but you would appreciate their love and acceptance. 

Don’t respond to any of your mother’s threats or insults if you can help it. If they can’t accept you and your fiance, they do not deserve to be in your life. 

Good luck. I hope your parents come around.

Post # 4
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2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  *Hugs* It sucks when parents or loved ones isn’t on board with you expecially when it’s amazing news! I think your parents are relunctant about you entering into a marriage bc theirs didn’t work out. But heck! You and your Fiance are not your parents! You’re engaged to the person you love! Don’t let anyone take that happiness away. I would be firm with your mother and call (or email) her and tell her something along the lines of “Mom, I didn’t appreciate your comments. Though you may be worried bc your my mom, it doesn’t give you the right to tear down my engagement. I understand that things may not have worked out between you and dad, and I’m sorry for that.  However, I’m engaged to the man I love who loves me so you should be happy for me. Also, I am more than capable to handle my own life and legal affairs.” You get the idea. I would contact her soon though it may be painful bc it seems her messages are becoming harsher and harsher.

Also, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Please don’t let other people make you second guess or feel anything less that great about your incredible news. Parents have their issues. With your mum, I would suggest sending her a polite and calm email explaining that you are happy with your decision, but appreciate her concern for you. Let her know that right now, more than anything, you need her love and positive support.

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