(Closed) Engagement and wedding pictures making me anxious

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
1452 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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mandapanda1022 :  I consider myself not normally photogenic, but my photographer worked with me and my husband just fine.  I will say that there was a marked improvement from my engagement photos to wedding photos.  I was obviously less comfortable in front of the camera in the engagement photos.  So I would think of the engagement photos as a trial run where both the couple and the photographer are learning how to work with each other.

My husband has a thing about not smiling in photos because a camera makes him feel strange.  His brother who was the best man is the same way.  Wedding photographers are professionals and they’ve got tricks!  Mine got lots of grinning shots of my husband–candid, natural shots too, not ones where he has his teeth clenched and showing like a madman.  And he doesn’t even smile when I take pictures of him.  

Trust the photographer.  He/she will take thousands of shots and there are bound to be some good ones.

Post # 3
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2016

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camenae :  I agree completely!  My Fiance is really photogenic, but I am not.  I still loved the vast majority of our engagment pictures and am hopeful I’ll feel the same about our wedding pics.  Try to relax and enjoy it!

Post # 4
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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mandapanda1022 :  I have another perspective–neither DH or I are necessarily “photogenic.” His phone is full of ugly selfies and I just can’t help but make a goofy face whenever I see a camera. I was super awkward during the engagement shoot until DH started pulling his regular shenanigans and I loosened up. Nonetheless, I was worried that we wouldn’t get the typical “beautiful” wedding photos, but we did get quite a few–as well as lots of photos of us that show our true personalities! I appreciate these photos, where we’re laughing and where we look so much like ourselves, way more than I do the posed, stereotypically beautiful photos that we got.

Post # 5
1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

Rely on your photographer and explain to them what you don’t want.. so if you do a funny face, they’ll call you on it. 

The other thing I would recommend is and you’re going to hate me for this. Spend some time in front of the mirror or look at old photos and determine what you do/don’t like. My hair is parted on the left side, covering the right side of my forehead. My photographers wanted to shoot from the left because they could see my face.. I just felt like I looked like I had a giant forehead. Stand firm!

Also, read articles on Pinterest on posing- how to feel thinner by standing on back leg, where to pivot your hips, pushing your shoulders down to elongate (my god so many people need to do this!!). Envision yourself looking beautiful and breathe- maybe taking your mind off “posing” could be more natural?

And when in doubt… a little liquid courage always helps you to not overthink things! 🙂

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