Post # 1
My fiance and I just got engaged this past July. We are planning on having our engagement photos taken this month, however we’ve recently decided that we aren’t going to have a traditional wedding. We’ve opted to have a small beach wedding in Hawaii with just our parents (an elopement, if you will)..
SO obviously we wont be sending out Save the Dates.. But he and I live in Chicago, alone, away from our families.. Our families are scattered throughout Florida, Canada, and NY.. Would it be acceptable to mail them announcements that include an engagement portrait, stating that we recently got engaged, even though it’s not a STD? Or is it rude to tell them that we’re engaged, but then later have to tell them that we’re not having a wedding if they call.
I just figured that sending out announcements would be a polite gesture…
What do you guys think??
Post # 3
I’m not sure on the etiquette, hopefully someone else knows! I think it’s a bit of a grey area, as I’ve seen that anyone invited to an engagement party should be invited to the wedding, as well as this being one of the few pre-wedding parties where everyone doesn’t need to be to the wedding (the hosts usually wouldn’t be able to obtain the guest list that early, and sometimes they are surprises!).
I think if you send the pictures and news with Christmas cards you would be less likely to have someone who gets confused and thinks it means it is something like a STD.
Post # 4
Announcements are polite and traditional.
No one should confuse it for an invitation or STD. Just be clear in your wording. You may want to wait until after the wedding and send out wedding announcements, or you could do both.
Post # 5
I would suggest just waiting and sending a marriage announcement after the fact. Then no one has time to complain that they weren’t invited to the wedding!
Post # 6
Sending out a holiday card with an engagement picture is a great idea!
Post # 7
I think it’s fine to send, I just don’t get the point. Won’t these people hear from other people if you’re that close to them? If I got an engagement announcement, to be perfectly honest, I’d assume I was invited to the wedding. No, I wouldn’t confuse it with a STD or an invitation (obviously there’s no date or any information on them), but I would assume I’d be invited to the nuptials if you took time to mail me an announcement. I might be in the minority, though!
Post # 8
Engagement anncouements are typically for the newspaper, not a mailed item, but that will do no good since everyone is scattered!
I would just wait until you are married and send wedding annoucements. Those are more common than mailing out engagement annoucements.
However, you could certainly do a holiday photo card (Christmas, New Year’s, etc) and use your engagement photos, but also put on the card that you got engaged as well. Then it’s like a holiday photo card with news!
Post # 9
@sienna76: thats a great idea! Thanks so much for your feedback, ladies!
I just figured that if Sedrick and I couldnt have an engagement party liek most people, to announce our engagement, we could send out the announcements. But we’ll send it out as a christmas card and write on the christmas card that we got engaged this past year. Since the pics are going to be taken during the Fall, it still “goes” with the theme of the winter season lol..
Thanks so much!!! :]
Post # 10
@MsHeatFan: VistaPrint has a deal right now 20 holiday cards for $1.99! They have various deals often though.
I will probably use some of my fall engagements or summer wedding photos in a holiday card for sure! Glad I could help!