- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
i have felt this way. i want to marry my Fiance no doubt but i guess it’s just the whole wedding day being on display thing that gets to me. my wedding is in 4 days so i’m just trying to relax. have a lot of family and close friends support that are helping me through this so i know it will be ok. next week at this time i’ll look back and smile!
@bimmy i will be sure to get back with you probably Monday ( i took the day off work to relax and regroup)! 🙂
I think it’s totally normal. I’ve been engaged 6 months and our wedding is still 22 months away. I wonder sometimes too… the 4 years that we were together before getting engaged I never had even the tiniest sliver of doubt… he’s the man of my dreams, gorgeous, sweet, kind, laid back, smart and hard working and he puts me first. I was soooooo excited to get engaged and couldn’t wait for him to pop the question.
I think it’s just normal when the reality hits that you’ve made this commitment that you start to think about 30 years from now… who will we be? what if we fall out of love? What if the things we’ve seen happen to our parents happen to us? His parents split recently after 33 years, and mine are together but things have been rocky at times over the last few years with them. Even now after 4.5 years, I find things aren’t always as exciting as they were a few years ago. but that’s the natural progression of a relationship. We are still deeply in love, deeply committed and the idea of anyone else feels so wrong.
I just know we’ve talked about it and made the commitment that neither will walk away when things get rough, and we know that in all likelihood we will have rough patches. But we both believe strongly in marriage being a life long commitment. Talk to your fiance about having nerves. A wedding and marriage are HUGE life changes, it’s ok to have anxiety around that. We have anxiety around most big life changes!
His parents got divorced after 27 years of marriage and mine after 25 years and are still not ever it. It is hard to be around them without them talking about their failed marriage. It maked me question everything.
I am definately going to sit with my fiance and make the commitment that we will never get divorced, does not matter how hard it gets because I love him so much!
Thanks for your reply!!
I won’t even let him sleep on the couch if we have an argument. I don’t believe in that. We can be mad at each other but we don’t run away from each other. He feels the same. 😀
My hesitation to commit to a dress had me worried that maybe it was because I wasn’t ready to commit to him… but that’s so not it bc before the ring I was dying to be engaged and was willing to forgo a wedding and elope just so we could be married finally. Weddings are just a lot of pressure and build up. Don’t worry! You love your man, you’re golden!
I did not have any prolems with a dress, but I do forget to put my ring back on after washing dishes or cleaning, which bothers me a lot. This morning I woke up at 4:00am , said: “OMG I am engaged!” and fell asleep again thinking about having very white teeth on my wedding. Very weird, what type of things come to my mind. And then I had a dream that I went to see my dentist and worke up thinking I should not feel this way and wrote this post. Thanks for all your help! I really appreciate your honesty!
Just relax, breathe, and think of all the fun you are going to have dress shopping and venue shopping. Think of how nice it’s going to be to finally be married to the person you’ve spent so much time with.
Hope you start to feel better!
I know this post is old..but I have had the same issues. Super nervous as my wedding gets closer. I’m glad I’m not the only one!!!! I’m getting married in less than 4 mon the and have been with my fiancé for 6 years. I love him with all my heart and yet question is he the one? Do I love him? I have been told this is totally normal. Just annoying!
My husband and I are very happy (newlyweds!). I worry about him divorcing me in 20 years from now lol. I think it is normal, especially for people who suffer from anxiety.
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