- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My fiance made me the happiest woman on earth and asked me to marry him on NYE! It was perfect and we are just thrilled 🙂 So now, we have 9 months to plan the wedding of our dreams. I know this is plenty of time for the type of wedding we want, but I’m also finising my master’s degree and working and he is finishing school, volunteering and working as well. My fiancee and I knew we were meant to spend our lives together when we met, so it was really only a matter of time and money before we got engaged. As it got closer to our time, we talked about it more and more and even started pre-planning. Some people thought I was jinxing it by looking for locations, considering color themes and browsing for dresses before I was even engaged, but I knew that was ridiculous and it would pay off.
I am blessed with a wonderful man…he is flexible, involved and genuinely wants to help in this process and this has been and will continue to be a blessing. More than anything we want to ENJOY this time in our relationship. I have heard that it can either be a very special time, or the worst time ever. We are determined to make it special. Although it’s only been a couple weeks since our engagement, we have been enjoying each other so much and having fun planning our special day TOGETHER.
Here are some tips that I think will help us and any couple enjoy the engagement season:
1. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. This is key. Talk about what’s important to him and to you with the wedding. Listen too. This will be the foundation of your relationship, not just now, but forever.
2. Encourage him to be involved and plan things together. Maybe not everything, but the things he’s really interested in. Make it fun! Don’t look at it as a daunting task. Remember you are planning a celebration of your new life together!
3. Don’t talk about the wedding 24/7. Remeber to talk about normal stuff and how exciting your new life will be together!
4. Plan ahead – together! Don’t wait to the last minute. Get good ideas of what you want NOW so when you talk to vendors you can tell them what you are looking for. This will eliminate some stress, which will prevent many arguments and frustration.
5. Remember you are on the same team!
6. Compromise. Although the wedding is always said to be “the bride’s day”, but don’t forget about the groom! There may be things he really wants and he deserves to have some things his way too. This is where communucation is key.
7. Alone time. Dedicate time for just the two of you on a regular basis. It wil help you stay connected emotionally, spiritually and mentally.
This time is what we make of it. Remember: the wedding is a special day and there is so much to be done to make it perfect, but it’s only one day. Your relationship is forever and needs to be nurtured too. I know there will be bumps in the road to planning, but we will get over them. If we can’t get through 9 months of planning a wedding together, how are we going to survive a marriage?