Post # 1
I have a random (possibly selfish?!) question about engagements….
We got engaged on 8/27/10. We’ve set our wedding date (8/27/11). Just about everyone know’s we’ve gotten engaged, but we haven’t sent out anything official – engagement photo shoot is this weekend and we will be putting something in our home town papers.
We’ve only gotten 2 engagement cards. One from my Maid/Matron of Honor the night we got engaged (She was in on the whole thing) and one from his grandmother. Nothing from anyone else. Not even our parents. I can’t help but feel a little forgotten. It’s not like I am looking for gifts or money, but a congratulations would be nice. We waiting a long time to get engaged – I am 36 and he is 35. Maybe people don’t think it’s important because we’re not younger?
Has Facebook taken over that etiquette? Do the cards start rolling in after “official” announcements?
I can’t help but have hurt feelings over this. Am I being silly and self absorbed?
Post # 3
I wasnt even aware that people sent out engagement cards lol. i surely didnt get any and wasnt expecting any either. I really dont think this is something to have hurt feelings over.
Post # 4
I think cards of congratulations are kidding of fading a bit yes- maybe because of facebook and email. The people i got cards from were relatives or older couples. But we did have an engagement party and the most the people in attendance (even our age) brought a card. I don’t think you sending out engagement cards is necessary though, especially if you are doing a newspaper announcement. You will be sending everyone a save the date and wedding invite soon enough.
Post # 5
I’ve never sent an engagement card. I guess if there was an official engagement party I would send one, but I usually wait for the shower to send a card & gift. I don’t think it’s something people think to send a card. I only got a few engagement cards from close family, but didn’t expect them either. I wouldn’t think too much about it – take the congrats in whatever form it comes.
Post # 6
I only give an engagement card (along with a gift) if I attend an engagement party.
Post # 7
I’ve never even thought to give engagement cards and we have not received any. We bring a gift if there is an engagement party. We’ve received many many congratulations via phone calls, emails, facebook, etc, but no cards.
Post # 8
I think people are just getting away from using the Postal system…. We got 3 cards (both my FI’s grandma’s and his mom who happens to make cards all the time). MY parents have NEVER sent me a card….seriously. Never. Not ever for any of my college graduations! So, I definitely didn’t get on for our engagement! I don’t think I ever expected my friends to send me a card either. They probably don’t even know what a stamp looks like at this point! Lol!
I wouldn’t be upset about it if you can help it! It’s definitely NOT personal or there wouldn’t be so many people saying they haven’t received cards! I’m sure they’ll show they congrats when the wedding comes around! If you need anymore examples of how difficult it seems to get people to mail you something…just go to ANY thread about RSVPs!!! It’s like pulling teeth even when you do all the work for them!
Post # 9
I didn’t mean that we’d be sending out engagement cards – just that we hadn’t yet sent the announcement for our local papers.
I am a little old school when it comes to the postal system. I love giving and receiving cards. And I’ve sent out way more congratulations on your engagement cards than I can count.
I guess I should just get over it.
thanks all. 🙂