Engagement Envy

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 46
Hostess
4572 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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@cc33ammy:  I don’t even think her S.O. is being cryptic at all.  He isn’t going to propose and he’s totally fine paying for rent on his own, thanks to his raise.  OP, I know there were other words around him saying that that make it seem like it’s a possibility, but it’s not.  He’s too much of a coward to tell you there’s no hope, but has given away his cards.  There will be no ring, no marriage, no actual commitment by the time you have to sign your next lease, and probably never will be from this guy.  You felt insecure about your timeline because you knew that he had no intention of proposing by February.  Please stop blaming yourself.  Be courageous and move on.  

Post # 47
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1574 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

No bandit in the history of bandits has ever told a mark “I’m a bandit”. They’re far more likely to say “I’m honest and trustworthy. I’ll guard your valuables.”

He’s a time bandit. He’ll steal as much of your time as he can, and as much of your care as he can get away with. When he wants to move on, he’ll either blame your bitterness or claim the relationship has gone downhill.  

Nobody can waste your time unless you let them. Stop letting him.

Post # 48
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2036 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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@coffeecakez:  ***APPLAUSE***

Post # 49
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2022 - UK

I understand how you feel !! My fiance and I have been together since November 2009, I introduced my best friend to his brother after her relationship ended at the start of 2011 and they started dating, by the end of 2012 they were engaged and married by May 2014 snd here I was a year and a half ahead of them in my relationship and nothing.

Enjoy your life however you want I’ve done exactly what I wanted to in my 20’s without paying for a wedding or kids (im 29) 

We met at 18 and 20 snd now hes 31 and he proposed last year on our 10 year anniversary (running joke is that he has a 10 year limit) and he proposed and said “6 hours left” and it was perfect.

Also I response to “i bought it up and he said” my fiance is the type of man of if you keep pestering him or bring it up he will take 2 steps back he wanted it to be forgotten about snd a surprise xx

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