(Closed) Engagement Envy

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

That does suck, and as easy as this is to say, it’s just as hard to follow, but enjoy being a girlfriend!  Haha, sometimes we can get so wedding-minded that we forget how fun it is to be a girlfriend.  While it will be even more fun to be a fiance, being a girlfriend is great too!  And the year before my FH proposed I had 10 weddings to go to.  I have 15 coming up this spring and summer…. haha.  So I def know how you feel in that regards.  What I always hated when I was growing up, but really the best advice my mom ever gave was, don’t wish your life away, because you will end up missing out on something.  So just enjoy the time you have now, and soon you to will be engaged!

Post # 4
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4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Easier said than done! You want to when you want to, and its ok if you want to at 19!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Awww.. I think most of us can relate to that feeling, but what otb said is true. It can be really fun being a girlfriend! It is those moments of “girlfriendom” that you can show your FI-to-be what a great person you are and how fun life with you will be 🙂

It is hard to see other people around you who are married/engaged though, I am definately not disagreeing with you on that, and unfortunately that can overshadow the fact that you have a great relationship and are at a great point in your life right at THIS moment.

Hang in there, be your wonderful self, and with all the people getting engaged all around you, take comfort in the fact that he is well aware of it. Hopefully it will get his mental wheels spinning as well!

Post # 6
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865 posts
Busy bee

I knowhow you feel.  I totally love wedding which is why I’m on this site but there are some days where it seems like everyone is getting engaged except me.  as much as i want to get married I need to learn to appreciate “girlfriendom” as okqueenbee says.  there is a right time for everything and hey, at least im with the love of my life married or not!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I feel for you! My story is a little different. We dated for four years, much longer than any of our friends. We got engaged in September. Less than a week later, my sister got engaged and my fiance’s close friend popped the question (they dated less than a year) – they are having a destination wedding too. So now our friends are invited to two destination weddings in the next year. I know of another friend that is planning on popping the question soon too, they dated less than a year and he is still married but going through a divorce. 3 other people from my fiance’s high school class are also getting married in the next year. So I have Wedding Envy! I am happy for everyone but it just seems like “our thunder” was taken away! I am really trying not to scream and pout like you too! 

Don’t worry your luck will change, it happens when you least expect it! I know that from experience, we were walking out of the house to get Chinese when I got asked!

Post # 8
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1110 posts
Bumble bee

I remember at 17-19, people were getting engaged/married left and right.

I was a little lot jealous, because here were people younger (and seemingly much less stable) than I, getting engaged/married, and I had not so much as held hands with anyone.

I don’t know that any of those people actually got married, I remember there eventually being a lot of drama and thinking that I was glad I was not involved in such things at such a young age, and that when I was older, hopefully such shenanigans would no longer be in style.  

Thankfully, that seems to be the case.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Two of my coworkers got engaged within a month of each other… and there’s a another girl that will probably get engaged within the next 6 months. And here I am, hanging out, dating Mr. KM. I know he’s proposing in Feb but it doesn’t make it any easier when one of the engaged coworkers met, dated, got engaged and then married in 6 months! Um… what?

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I felt the same way.  Fiance and I have been dating 7 and a half years.  I was definetely ready to get married.  I kept waiting and waiting and it seemed like evryone I knew was getting engaged and married, including close people who had been together for 6 months.  I tried not to let it bother me, but was secretly going crazy.  I guess the timing is different for everyone, but you’re definetely not alone in your frustration.

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