Post # 1
Hi bees! I am in need of some advice. I recently got engaged while on vacation and I am super excited! My best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor is also recently engaged (christmas eve) and when I saw her and her future husband today they gave my Fiance and I a card with money in it. Nothing significant (less than $100) but still I wasnt expecting it. I am feeling really terrible because when she got engaged I didn’t get her a card or anything. I did however buy her a wedding planning binder with tote bag & wedding website coupon codes and lots of other fun stuff included. I am feeling terrible about not giving her a card and even more terrible that she gave us money. Should I try to give her the money back? Should i get her a happy belated engagement card? Im feeling like a terrible friend Please help me!
Post # 3
@SparkleBaby: I don’t think you should feel bad. You gave her a gift and this is her gift to you. Say thank you!
Post # 4
No. You absolutely shouldn’t try to return her gift, or get her a card now. She will obvioulsy know, it was an after thought and because you felt guilty.
People don’t (or shouldn’t) give gifts because they want something back. This is how she chose to celebrate your engagement. You chose to celebrate hers with the binder and tote.
Post # 5
I don’t think you have to feel bad about anything. I never knew of giving engagement gifts, outside of an engagement party, anyway. Regardless, you gave her a gift, which was nice of you, and she gave you a gift, which was nice of her. End of story. Being happy for each other is enough, too!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t feel bad at all. You both gave gifts! They were just different from one another. Plus, if she is your Maid/Matron of Honor then you guys are obviously close so I wouldn’t really sweat it.