Post # 1
Hi Bees! I need your wisdom. I know that there’s a tradition (not very known for what I’ve seen) where couples exchage engagement gifts, obviously the bride gets the engagement ring and the groom usually gets a watch, I was totally on board with this idea and a couple of months after my Fiance proposed (a complete surprise) I got him a special edition mont blanc pen (exactly what he wanted), he was super excited and has been showing his pen to everyone 🙂
The problem is that I heard that there is another tradition of giving a wedding present, so my question is, should I get him something for our wedding day? or since I already got him an (not so inexpensive) engagement gift I don’t really have to? I’ve looked all over the internet for the “etiquette” but I can’t find anything on the subject and in my circle no one even knew about an “engagement gift” for the groom. I just want to point out that he never asked for a gift, it was completely my idea since I wanted him to have something to commemorate the occasion, so by giving him something on our wedding day I’m not expecting to get something in return, but I could use the money of the gift to pay for wedding related stuff.
So does anyone gave 2 gifts? just one? please share
Post # 2
We did both, but it’s really up to you and your groom to be. Some couples exchange lots of gifts, some exchange none; it’s just how each couple wants to celebrate their relationship.
Post # 3
talk to him and agree between you what you’d both like to do and what suits you best.
Some people do a wedding gift, some don’t. It’s between you two so there’s no one else to concern yourselves with on this so just chat about it and see what feelings you both have.
Post # 4
We are doing neither.
But have decided that on our 1st Anniversary we are getting gold watches. 🙂
ETA: Aren’t your engagement ring, your wedding bands, a wedding and a honeymoon ENOUGH??? Haha
Post # 5
The trend is fairly new. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either option. But like pp said, you’re about to spend $$$ on a wedding why not do something extra like a maggage on the honeymoon instead of something tangible? Unless money isn’t an issue. Then gifts galore!
Post # 6
We didn’t exchange gifts for our engagement and probably won’t for the wedding either. I do like the idea of of writing each other a nice, heartfelt note to read on the morning of the wedding, so we may do that. If you’re looking to save money, you both could do that and call it your wedding gift to each other.
Post # 7
We didn’t exchange gifts for our engagement (though I did get a ring – and it was perfect). For our wedding, we’re making compilation CDs (or what we used to call “mixtapes” back in the day) for each other, with little snippets written about why each song was chosen. We both think a well-crafted mix of songs can speak volumes. 🙂
In the end, it’s up to you and your fiance.
Post # 8
I dont think there are any rules or ettiquette.
I wanted to buy (and we had looked at and chosen) a watch for my husband when we got engaged. Then the day I was going to purchase he asked me not to. He said he couldnt stomach the thought of me spending that money when we were about to plan a wedding. We compromised and I bought him a new wardrobe for work.
Then he was adamant that we did not need to exchange gifts for the wedding ( citing that purchasing rings, paying for wedding and honeymoon are gift enough) but surprised me the morning after the wedding with diamond earrings.
I felt guilty initially, but he said seeing me wear the earrings make him happy. Whatever floats your boat!
Post # 9
Justs because a few people do something, doesn’t make it “a tradition”. Most people I know and have heard or read about did not give each other “engagement gifts”. Yes, an engagement ring is traditional. An engagement watch is not. Sure, some people do it and there’s nothing wrong with it, but it’s far from “a tradition.” Giving each other wedding gifts would be more of a tradition I suppose. But even so, “tradition” does not mean “required”. Do what you want and can afford.
Post # 10
We didn’t do either! LOL. He doesn’t like watches and we spent so much on the wedding we agreed no gifts. So I got an engagement ring and we each bought each other our wedding bands and that’s it. 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2017 - Greenspot Farms
I did not get him an engagement gift but I am giving him a wedding gift. I have made a nice book of pictures, notes, memories, and letters of our time together. I will also be giving him a bound book of boudoir photos.
Post # 12
hahaha you’re totally right, this wedding thing is really expensive 😛
Post # 14
Thank you all so much for your answers!, I certainly don’t have loads of money but I wanted to surprise him with something nice, and just seeing him happy makes me happy, and why shouldn’t the groom have the opportunity to show off an engagement gift just like we do with our engagement ring 😉
Anyways Im going to talk to him and tell him we have had enough gifts hahaha, that all our efforts should go towards the wedding and honeymoon (my favorite part haha)