(Closed) Engagement gift AND wedding gift??

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We did both, but it’s really up to you and your groom to be.  Some couples exchange lots of gifts, some exchange none; it’s just how each couple wants to celebrate their relationship.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

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gismonda :  talk to him and agree between you what you’d both like to do and what suits you best. 

Some people do a wedding gift, some don’t. It’s between you two so there’s no one else to concern yourselves with on this so just chat about it and see what feelings you both have. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We are doing neither. 

But have decided that on our 1st Anniversary we are getting gold watches. πŸ™‚

ETA: Aren’t your engagement ring, your wedding bands, a wedding and a honeymoon ENOUGH??? Haha

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

The trend is fairly new. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either option. But like pp said, you’re about to spend $$$ on a wedding why not do something extra like a maggage on the honeymoon instead of something tangible? Unless money isn’t an issue. Then gifts galore!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We didn’t exchange gifts for our engagement and probably won’t for the wedding either. I do like the idea of of writing each other a nice, heartfelt note to read on the morning of the wedding, so we may do that. If you’re looking to save money, you both could do that and call it your wedding gift to each other. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We didn’t exchange gifts for our engagement (though I did get a ring – and it was perfect). For our wedding, we’re making compilation CDs (or what we used to call “mixtapes” back in the day) for each other, with little snippets written about why each song was chosen. We both think a well-crafted mix of songs can speak volumes. πŸ™‚

In the end, it’s up to you and your fiance.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I dont think there are any rules or ettiquette.

I wanted to buy (and we had looked at and chosen) a watch for my husband when we got engaged. Then the day I was going to purchase he asked me not to. He said he couldnt stomach the thought of me spending that money when we were about to plan a wedding. We compromised and I bought him a new wardrobe for work.

Then he was adamant that we did not need to exchange gifts for the wedding ( citing that purchasing rings, paying for wedding and honeymoon are gift enough) but surprised me the morning after the wedding with diamond earrings.

I felt guilty initially, but he said seeing me wear the earrings make him happy. Whatever floats your boat!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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gismonda :  Justs because a few people do something, doesn’t make it “a tradition”. Most people I know and have heard or read about did not give each other “engagement gifts”. Yes, an engagement ring is traditional. An engagement watch is not. Sure, some people do it and there’s nothing wrong with it, but it’s far from “a tradition.” Giving each other wedding gifts would be more of a tradition I suppose. But even so, “tradition” does not mean “required”. Do what you want and can afford.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

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gismonda :  We didn’t do either! LOL. He doesn’t like watches and we spent so much on the wedding we agreed no gifts. So I got an engagement ring and we each bought each other our wedding bands and that’s it. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Greenspot Farms

I did not get him an engagement gift but I am giving him a wedding gift. I have made a nice book of pictures, notes, memories, and letters of our time together. I will also be giving him a bound book of boudoir photos.

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