Post # 1
I think my proposal is coming really soon! My ring is being cast next week and it should be finished soon after that. I’m hoping that maybe he’ll ask me when my parents are here visiting us in a few weeks (they live on the other side of the country).
I know that it’s becoming more standard to give a gift to him, but isn’t really necessary or expected. However, I have had more say in my ring than he had originally hoped, being the man who wanted everything to be a complete out of the blue surprise. Since I’ve had such a hand in my ring, I think he feels a little let down and thinks that it won’t a totally “traditional” proposal. I’ve assured him that everything can still be traditional and a surprise, but he is kind of skeptical… Obviously this isn’t the only reason for wanting to give him a gift for engagement, but it’s one small one. My main reasoning behind wanting to give him a gift is that in that moment (or shortly thereafter) I want him to know that I thought of him too. All of the waiting and occassional brattiness wasn’t just me being selfish and just wanting a ring, or a proposal story to tell everyone. It’s a symbol of my acceptance of his proposal and MY desire to share our futures. Does that make any sense?
My question is: Did you give your new fiance an engagement gift? What was your reasoning behind it? What did you give him? Did you purchase it/give it to him before or after the proposal?
I’m thinking of giving him an engraved, coin style money clip that I found on Etsy that I know he would really like. I feel like it would be something practical and sentimental (the engraving) that he can carry with him that isn’t jewelry, that I can pay for outright and won’t have to put on a credit card (which is something he would really appreciate). However, he already carries so much in his pockets that I wonder if he’ll use it or if it’ll just sit in the safe. I’ll probably run the idea past his brother, but since I will only have a small window to talk to him about it during the day, and I’m kind of excited about the idea now, I thought I’d run it past all of you beautiful Bees 🙂
Looking forward to hearing all of your always helpful feedback!
Post # 2
I immediately wanted to buy him a fancy watch! I also want to get it engraved with something sweet. I think it’s a very nice idea because it really is something so special to celebrate! Especially if they are putting time/stress into making it a surprise! I haven’t bout it yet, he is pickier about his watch than I am about my ring! I also bought myself a pair of earrings that PERFECTLY match my e-ring as a gift to myself because as I told myself “hey girl! I just got engaged! Time to celebrate:)”
Post # 3
Does he have any special hobbies or dream gifts? Darling Husband is a gun enthusiast, so I got him an engagement pistol. Basically, he picked it out, and I paid for it. We also had it engraved, so that was extra special.
After he proposed, I wanted to get him something for the engagement because it seemed off balance for him to be the only one giving a gift. My gift to him wasn’t a surprise, but he still cherishes it.
Post # 4
I ve ordered my fiancé a ring off etsy, if he d have preferred I would have gone for a nice watch. Feels unfair that I got something so wanted him to have a symbol of our engagement in return.
Post # 5
wildflowergypsy : yes I got my fiancé a gift. I ordered it before the proposal but I knew it was coming that Christmas season. I gave it to him the day after we got engaged. I bought him a print from a local photographer, and had it up on the wall when he got home from work. He loves it a lot, and it felt nice to get him something. I wouldn’t worry about giving it to him immediately when he proposes. A few days or weeks later I’m sure would be fine, he will still feel very loved and appreciated.
Post # 6
I didn’t give him a gif and I really regretted it. Just recently we had a conversation how truly unfair it is that a girl gets this expensive ring and the guy gets nothing. My now husband was really excited for the wedding bands, he was like : “you had this ring for over a year to show that we are engaged and I had nothing to symbolize our engagement”
I really wish I got him an engraved watch or something.
Post # 7
I bought him a new gaming system. I let him choose which one he wanted and I just paid for it. I don’t think it’s fair that men are expected to fork over so much money on an engagement ring so air wanted to get him something to show my appreciation.
Post # 8
Our engagement was planned/mutual, and I got to pick my ring. I really wanted to do something for my fiance as well, but he was really opposed to a ring for him. Also, he has been married before and his former wife gave him an engraved pocket watch as a wedding present, so I just wanted to steer clear of anything remotely similar. I found a program called “pixton” and created a comic book representation of our relationship. I always do really silly “dramatic reenactments” of some of our favorite memories and making a comic strip version of those was a fun way to draw it out and highlight some of the special times leading up to our decision to get engaged. It was incredibly time consuming, but really fun for me to make and for him to receive.
Post # 9
craigslistgirl : My Boyfriend or Best Friend is also a gun enthusiast! I’d love to be able to get him a really cool firearm, but since I wouldn’t be able to pay for it outright (I’m working my way out of some credit card debt) and he’s so adamantely against any debt that i feel like something that had to go on a credit card even for a little bit might ruin it for him. I would save for a gun, but I think it’s going to happen pretty soon and for some reason, the idea to get him something awesome just hit me like a ton of bricks yesterday afternoon 🙂 Your gift to your Darling Husband is so sweet though! Maybe I’ll shoot for that as a wedding present 😉
Post # 10
stephyhansen : That sounds like a beautiful present! Congratulations on your engagement and your new earrings! 🙂
Post # 11
I told him he gets to pick the breed of our future dog, which has always been a fun argument between us.
Post # 12
I did get my then-fiancé a gift. I bought him a 1948 GMC truck. It was kind of a ‘right place, right time’ deal and it’s something he will have forever. I knew proposal was coming at some point so I bought the truck in payments so it wasn’t a huge chunk at once!
i love the pistol idea!
If your guy is into firearms, possibly a custome holster or gun case. I’ve bought my husband nice knives in the past as a gift too (less costly than a gun but still something to last forever!) Buck Knives makes special limited edition knives that are beautiful and more collector items than everyday use.
Post # 13
I bought my fiance a ring of his own shortly after getting engaged. He wears it on his right hand, and tells people that it’s his engagement ring if they ask.
Post # 14
I got him an engraved antique watch from Etsy. I had some song lyrics engraved on the back, and he “zaps” most battery watches and this was a wind up.
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