(Closed) Engagement = Happiest Time of Your Life?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Engagement = happiest time of life?
    Yes : (29 votes)
    18 %
    No, it wasn't much different from "real" life : (45 votes)
    28 %
    No, it was actually less happy/more stressful : (73 votes)
    46 %
    Other (please explain) : (11 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4465 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When we first got engaged and started dreaming about the wedding, showing off my ring, etc., it was fun.  But the last 6 months to a year have just been really stressful.  I think newlywed bliss will be more fun than being engaged :o)

    Post # 4
    Member
    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I loved being engaged, but I’m definitely happier now that we’re married! We are now working on achieving the things we dreamed up for our lives during our engagement – we couldn’t before because we had to plan for the wedding. Now we’re travelling, shopping for our family car, planning renovations for our house, planning for babies…
    All of which are more exciting than the wedding. Don’t get me wrong: the wedding day was very important to us, and we had our dream wedding. But that wedding was more about starting our lives as a family unit and I love to see those dreams being pursued and achieved.

    Post # 5
    Member
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Well for the first year it was because I did little planning! Now I’m stressed out and just want to settle into married life.

    I have a little over two months of torture to go though. πŸ™

    Post # 6
    Member
    1106 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My engagement has been pretty awesome, but I think that married life will be even better!!! Once all of the stress from planning a wedding is over, getting settled into our marriage will be awesome :]

    Post # 7
    Member
    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My engagement has been great.  It probably has been the best time of my life, but a lot of other things factor into that. Career, etc.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I LOVE being engaged!

    I love planning the wedding, I feel very lucky for the people I have in my life they are all wonderful and I love dreaming, thinking, and planning everything wedding!

    Post # 9
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am so excited and looking forward to be marrying my Fiance in September. We bought a house together last year, live kinda like college kids, but with grown-up jobs. I love my life. I am very very blessed. πŸ™‚

    That said, it’s life! When I was first engaged it was fun to show off my ring, talk about the future with my Fiance, but now we have been planning for 15 months and I am exhausted/stressed. My Mom has no interest in helping me so that’s out. My job sucks/is a stressfest, so I do my best 45 hours a week and then try to soak up all the good I can when I am not working.

    My point? Life is good and we are getting married in September, yay! I am also planning the wedding mostly on my own (FI gladly help if asked), job hunting, trying to lose weight, run a house etc etc. Life is life, but a bit more exciting right now:)

    I think my honeymoon in Napa after the wedding will be the happiest, most relaxed week of my life πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    Member
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I LOVE being engaged…but the wedding planning and the stress of it all does put a little bit of a damper on all of it…I only wish that we had gotten engaged like a year ago and just enjoyed being engaged for a while instead of jumping head first straight into planning.

    Post # 11
    Member
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Being engaged has definitely been the best time of our relationship. However, both of us have had horrible jobs this year that have made the rest of our lives not so fun. I agree, married life will be even better!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    the stressfull part is obviously the money, cant wait til its over in 10 days and we can begin saving again!

    Post # 13
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve always been the kind of person who has a hard time just living in the moment and not getting stuck in my head wondering about the future or running over things that have happened in the recent past…

    And engagement, by definition, is kind of an “in-between” time, so I voted “more stressful,” for a few reasons…

    At first it was SO fun to try on tons of dresses, constantly flip through bridal magazines, and envision The Day. The initial fantasy and “whoa, this is ME now” feeling was great. But as real decisions, deadlines, budget concerns, and opinions have taken over, it’s added more stress.

    Wedding planning has challenged my personality. I’m *terrible* at keeping in touch with friends and family, and too damn lazy to call important people back–like my bridesmaids and other family members who are asking me questions. I feel guilty at being a deadbeat about communicating and deadlines, so just keeping in touch with people has felt like a list of chores hanging over my head.

    On the one hand I want to just do it already so we can get on with “real life”! On the other hand, I’ve heard that engagement is kind of a precious time to really appreciate, so I sometimes wish we had a little more time to take it at a more leisurely pace.

    Well, that answer was clear as mud!

    Post # 14
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    “I only wish that we had gotten engaged like a year ago and just enjoyed being engaged for a while instead of jumping head first straight into planning.”

    That’s how I feel!

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    Marriage has been a happier time for us!  Engagement had lots of happy times and fun moments but now we still have the euphoria of wow, look what we did with the stress that sometimes came with wedding planning.

    Post # 16
    Member
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Our relationship is the best it’s ever been.  I feel more secure in things and I think that makes a big difference.

    Planning a wedding/reception is certainly stressful, but it’s not been that bad (yet).

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