(Closed) engagement invitation for couple that plans to elope

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Instead of having an engagement party, could you have a “just married” party and invite all of the people after you have eloped?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think the first thing you need to do is talk to your Future Sister-In-Law and her Fiance.  This will be their wedding weekend, and while I am a firm believer that you only get one day, having your engagement party during their wedding festivities may offend them.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I agree with @shaydenise.  You really need to clear this with you Future Sister-In-Law before you move forward.  I would be very upset if I were her. 

Post # 7
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695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

While I understand your motivation, I have to agree with shaydenise that you should definitely talk to your Future Sister-In-Law and her Fiance first. They may or may not be upset if you host a party during their wedding weekend so it would be best to clear it with them before making plans.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would warn you against trying to do a “double whammy” wedding where you get everyone to come to your engagement party because they are in town for her wedding.

this can only lead to hurt feelings and frusterated guests.

I second the “just married” family-reunion type party. You could have it next Spring…then it isn’t getting outshined or outshining anyone elses day in the sunshine!

good luck!

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