Post # 1
Hello all! So I heard some magical words the other night, SO’s in the process of designing a ring! He says he’s got a physical copy of what the ring will look like so I know he’s REALLY doing this! We’re really going to spend the rest of our lives together! 🙂 SO then started talking about the design and showed me a picture of something he really liked (but wasn’t going with)… and it was so not me. It was diamonds galore and just not what I’d consider to be my style at all. I have always said I want a heart cut solitaire setting in white gold (well any metal as long as it is silver in color) so why does he think I need a custom design????? ugh I’m such a simple girl and he’s making it more complicated! I know that the ring is only a symbol and therefore is not important, and that I’ve done as much as I can to guide him in the direction of what I like. But I can’t help but worry that I will have a ring that I don’t like for the rest of my life with him. Any Advice? Anyone else have this happen? Any other fears like mine? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
Best advice I can think of? Talk to him. I know everyone here says that but thats the best you can do.
Post # 4
I second what PP said. This is a big decision and purchase, you should make your wants clear!
Post # 5
I had very similar concerns at the beginning of this ring buying process. My SO also had the idea that I needed some elaborate custom design despite my taste for simple jewelery. Once I started the conversation, it was easy to change his mind. We went ring shopping a few times and now we have a white gold solitaire on layaway. I know you dont want to hurt his feelings after he put some effort into designing a ring, but you are the one who has to wear it for the rest of your life. I’m sure he would want you to love it 🙂
Post # 6
Talk to him and tell him what you told us. You’re going to be wearing this ring so you need to love it. I’m sure he simply wants to give you a ring he thinks you’d love and if this isn’t it, then you should let him know before it gets too far into the process.
Post # 7
I did tell him that it wasn’t my thing and that I am more of a simple solitaire girl and he swears I am going to love it. I love him and I trust him in every other aspect of my life, but this design he showed me… ugh! I hope it isn’t too late, but the part that kills me is that if he’s already gotten to this stage and then he’s gotta start from scratch that will delay the engagement 🙁 Ugh!
Post # 8
@annasaf83: all of my friends that had the same feelings as you are having right now about the ring, all told me that as soon as their SO’s proposed, all of those feelings disappeared and they are all genuinely in LOVE with their ring. hopefully, this will happen for you too and don’t forget to post pictures when it’s on your finger!!! congrats!
Post # 9
I have the exact same fear! So, I’m picking up lots of advice from your post right now. // My bf’s occupational hazard of being an engineer is over researching everything. So, he has talked about how he polled all his fellow coworkers and how much they’ve spent on their wives’ rings and then, he said he wanted to find the best cut, size and clarity. // I’m sure MissKat03 is right. You will love whatever ring your SO propose with…