Engagement is OFF

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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6095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

My heart goes out to you- you gave your ex another chance to prove himself and he threw it away. It’s good you found out before things got any further along or you were any more entangled with him.

I would give the husband a heads up, with proof, just so he can make an informed choice about how he moves forward. Maybe wait a bit so you’re not just doing it from anger.

Post # 17
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2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just to give you a laugh, have you considered how completely hilarious her prayers must be?  “Dear God, I’m so sorry I sent photographs of my vagina to an engaged man.”  God’s like “dude Karen, I know I said you could tell me anything but seriously between you and Anthony Weiner I am hitting my limit.”

I wouldn’t tell the husband only because I don’t like to put myself in potentially dangerous situations and I don’t think you owe him anything.  The husband could have a “shoot the messenger” mentality, and even if you do it anonymously, this chick knows you know so she’ll put two and two together, and she’s clearly not the height of morality.  You don’t need crazy people showing up at your door.

Post # 18
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1185 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

tiffanybruiser :  This so describes the end of my first marriage, as well. I often described it as a giant wall going up and no matter how much he may have wanted to push through it, it wasn’t going to happen.

readytowed32 :  I’m sorry that it’s come to this, but I’m SO glad you found out before you married this disgusting man. I, personally, wouldn’t tell the husband. Chances are he already has his own suspicions and knows. Plus, being the scorned fiancee, I feel like if he didn’t know, she may twist it into you being crazy and making up lies abut her. I would just rather stay out of it and be done with the whole situation!

Post # 19
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2877 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

If my SO was cheating I would want to know. I don’t think I could ever trust someone if they knew about it and chose not to tell me to avoid drama. I would send him proof and all conversations so that he has all of the information and can choose to react in his own manner. 

Post # 20
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Pretty typical. My ex that constantly accused me of cheated turned out to be the one cheating. Scummy people are always paranoid and suspicious because they think everyone else is scummy like them. 

If I were the other woman’s husband, I would want to know. I say you take screenshots and send them over. If he wants to stay with her anyway, that’s his choice, but at least he’ll be making an informed choice. 

Post # 21
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106 posts
Blushing bee

I’m sorry you went through that but I’m glad you had the strength to leave and I wish you many good things to come.

As for telling her husband, I would. He has a right to know. Just makes sure it comes from a place of telling him for the right reasons (to protect his health, so he sees what type of woman he is with etc) and not from a place of revenge and malice. 

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