(Closed) Engagement length question!

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
3713 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We waited a couple of weeks, but we had a somewhat short engagement (8 months) so we had to get the major details locked down pretty quickly. 

Post # 3
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We set a date a few weeks after being engaged. He proposed in July, and I knew I wanted a summer or early fall wedding the following year. We wanted a specific venue, which rents for the entire weekend per couple, so we had to sign a contract fairly quickly as this place books up 10-12 months in advance. In total our engagement will be 13 months.

Post # 4
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Simsbury 1820 House

Engaged May 2014. Set a date July 2015. Getting married Sept. 2016. Yup. It’s been a long time, but times of unemployment affected things. I would just say we don’t know yet and leave it be.

Post # 5
44 posts

We’ve been engaged for just over a month and are still deciding – We want a pretty long engagement also – 2017-2019 wedding. I’ve started looking at venues but haven’t decided a date yet! Congrats, don’t stress about it, just tell them you haven’t thought about it yet πŸ˜‰

Post # 6
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

We are going to have an 18 month engagement in the end! I would have preferred a bit less time, but we got engaged in December 2014 and most places were already booked in fall 2015 so we ended up looking at Spring/Summer 2016. We started looking at venues essentially right away and had our venue/date within 6 weeks or so. I have a lot of family traveling in and wanted to let them know the date ASAP so they could plan for it. I was also just super excited to get the planning started (am I crazy to say I love it??). I wouldn’t say this much time is necessary but it does make the process pretty relaxing. We had lots of down time where we didn’t have to do anything. 

Anyway, congratulations!!! 

Post # 7
2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We got engaged at the end of September and booked our venue in mid November. We are getting married in December 2016, so are having a 1 year and 2 month engagement. I didn’t really want a long engagement but I also wanted to allow ourselves plenty of time to plan a wedding we would both really be happy with. We got soo many questions about a date in the beginning, it kind of made me freak out that we hadn’t done anything yet! But then I realised that people were just excited for us. We had our engagement party at the end of November and were able to announce our date to everyone then, which was nice.

Post # 8
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

Well before we were engaged we planned next year May (I knew I was going to get engaged before the year was up). Once I got engaged in Nov (2015 baby πŸ’š) , for a while we still decided that date. until financial ruin hit me like a sack of potatoes (I mentioned I had a work related  injury in sept and i didnt see any end to it) so I had to postpone the wedding to August. My future mother in law has already told everyone we’re getting married august. Like they kept on asking, even Fiance “is august a definite answer because we need to know to get things ready”. And I’m like still thinking well yeah I guess. We’ll see what happens later on. 

But august it is. πŸ™‚ yay married to my Best friend in 7 and a  half months!! Those months will go by fast. πŸ’™πŸ’šπŸ’›πŸ’œ

Post # 9
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We were engaged for about 6 months before we set a date. We felt that we needed to find a venue first (and it helped, we got our pick of venues cuz we had a flexible date). We then set the date 18 months out from the original engagement date since I had time off from grad school.

Don’t worry about it though. After about 8 months of being engaged, no one asks me questions anymore and I like it that way.

Post # 10
3936 posts
Honey bee

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We chose our date within days. Everything took ~6.5mos total, from proposal to wedding.


Post # 11
79 posts
Worker bee

We have been engaged for 6 months and haven’t planned a single thing! We get asked all the time! But… We are just over 4 months pregnant so hopefully people lay off for a little while. 

Post # 12
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We got engaged late September and haven’t set a date yet. We’ve known June or July 2016 since we got engaged though. We plan to set a date by the end of the year. 

Post # 13
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m pretty sure we picked a date before we were officially engaged. If not, it was within hours. The night is a bit blurry we got drink and ate pizza and then I got yelled at a policeman because my staff called to tell me he tried to get information about library patrons without a warrant that night and I called the station to give him heck.

Post # 14
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’d been engaged for 3 months before we booked a venue and set a date. Then we were still engaged for a year (: I’ve found that before you set a date, it’s nice to have a general year and time within that year, like early 2017 or Summer 2017.

Post # 15
1520 posts
Bumble bee

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amedeiros08:  I’ve been engaged for 6 months and still haven’t set a date yet! I don’t fancy rushing personally and we have to save for it, we haven’t got anybody to help us out with it and with other expenses it does mean that we can’t save too quickly. People drive me mad when all they say is when is the date! I had it on the same day I got engaged! Felt like… Give me a chance! 

Think its different for every couple.

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