(Closed) Engagement length question!

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
2168 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

We set a date before we even got engaged! We always knew we wanted that date though, so our timeline was built around it.

Honestly though, take it at your own pace. My Sister got engaged last year and thinks she won’t get married until 2020. Everybody has their own timeline ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 17
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I got engaged august 2015 and we’re not getting married til July 2017 so basically a 2 year engagement.  I feel your pain because the first thing everyone asks us is if we set a date! It took us about 5 months to set a date because life was busy and I did a lot of research before we even went to look at venues.  My advice would be don’t rush it but you definitely don’t want to wait too long….venues are starting to book up for 2017 already, at least in my area.  I would say you do want to have a general idea of when you want to get married, say summer 2018, just so you know when you should lock down vendors.

Post # 18
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We set a date about a month after getting engaged, and will be married after almost an exact year of being engaged!  He proposed on May 13th 2015 and our wedding will be May 14th 2016 ๐Ÿ™‚  That wasn’t even intentional, just how seasons and availability worked out!

Post # 19
2327 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

20 months. 4 months from there until the wedding. The date questions drove me around the bend so I don’t envy you!

Post # 20
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We were engaged 8 months before we set a date. People would ask us what was taking us so long to decide but we honestly just wanted to enjoy that time in our relationship together without wedding planning hanging over us. Our engagement will be 26 months altogether.

Post # 21
6299 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t remember exactly, but within a couple of weeks. I remember having our date & venue set, because I was dress shopping on the 1 month of our engagement.

Post # 22
1673 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Started planning immediately and the wedding was 6 months after he proposed. We’re kind of old and wanted to start having kids. 

Post # 23
282 posts
Helper bee

We got engaged December 2013, set a date March 2015 and will be getting married September 2016. We wanted a long engagement, seeing as we were dating for only 6 months before getting engaged, I was finishing up school and wanting to settle into a career. Now that I’ve done what I wanted to accomplish, I can focus on our future!

Every couple is different though, and don’t let pushy family/friends rush you into anything!

Post # 24
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We got engaged about 3 weeks ago and know we’ll be getting married Fall 2017 so about a 2 year engagement.


we knew we wanted a fall wedding and in our area under  year is hard to plan in 

Post # 25
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We got engaged in June and we always said we wanted a summer wedding and that we didn’t want to wait long!  We also knew the venue we wanted (the university where we met) so we called them 2 days after our engaement to see what they had available.  We booked our date about two weeks after our engagement!

Post # 26
744 posts
Busy bee

We picked the date and booked the venue a few weeks before we got engaged. It was actually one year ago yesterday!

We got married after seven months and I’m now 3 months pregnant. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

We set a date within a week of getting engaged because the venue I had my heart set on only had limited dates available in 2016 and waiting until 2017 was out of the question. We got engaged on 4/18/15, then had our choice of 1/2/16, 2/5/16, or 3/26/16. We chose 3/26, so our engagement will have lasted about 11 months. 95 days to go, but who’s counting? ๐Ÿ˜€

Someone actually asked me when we were getting married the day after we got engaged. People are weird.

Post # 28
3848 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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amedeiros08:  Please don’t feel rushed – it is nice for friends to be curious but there is no need to set a date until you are ready.  You can always set a year.  ๐Ÿ˜‰  

We were engaged about for a month before we set a date, but we set a date because we needed to secure our photographer and our venue, both of which booked up about 18 months in advance.   I really enjoyed those wonderful preplanning days!!  

Post # 29
2268 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We were engaged in September, didn’t set the date until the following January.

Post # 30
6503 posts
Bee Keeper

We were engaged for 6 years (both in graduate school during that time), and never planned a thing or set a date. We were engaged for so long that people stopped asking when we were getting married — ha, ha! We set a date about 6-8 months before we actually got married.

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