(Closed) Engagement length question!

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We got engaged last November and set an October date about 2 weeks or so after. We were engaged for exactly 11 months

Post # 32
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We got engaged mid-October of this year, picked our date/booked the venue 2 weeks later, and will be married next October, so a 1 year engagement. 

Post # 33
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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amedeiros08:  Congratulations! A day or two after my Fiance proposed we settled on a season and year that we wanted to get married. We knew that we would be getting a bunch of questions about setting a date and wanted to be prepared with some kind of answer! We got engaged in Oct 2014 and decided to get married in Spring of 2016. We set the date with the venue a couple of months later.

Post # 34
1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We got engaged in August 2012 and I honestly wasn’t planning on getting married until 2014 because 2 of my cousins had weddings planned for 2013 and adding a 3rd would make it impossible for family to choose which to attend (all of us were from my dad’s side of the family). 

My cousin that was to marry in October 2013 decided to cancel her wedding and elope, we found out in December and decided to look at wedding venues for late 2013 dates. The one we loved had 2 October dates left and we scooped up one of them. 14 total months of engagement but was expecting more like 26 LOL.

Post # 35
26 posts

We set a date about six weeks after getting engaged, once we figured out what type of wedding we wanted and where we wanted to do it. We picked the date based on what our venue had available, since their availability was super limited. 

Post # 36
303 posts
Helper bee

2015 has been big for us! Engaged August 3rd. Date Set in October. Married November 19th.

We were obviously going to get married sooner or later so we thought, why the not “sooner”! We don’t like the fuss and stress that comes with regular weddings and all that money for one day!, so we eloped alone in secret to Koh Samui. Now we are TTC, so fingers and toes crossed! 🙂

Congratulations and all the best to you!

Post # 37
3383 posts
Sugar bee

We got engaged Feb 2015. I had always wanted a September wedding, but I knew 7 months was not enough time to plan. So we decided on 9/10/16. I think we set the date/booked the venue about 3-4 weeks after we got engaged. 

Post # 38
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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amedeiros08:  We had a period of “limbo” time where we’d decided to get engaged but weren’t officially engaged yet, and that’s when we picked a date.  We had agreed to buy a ring with the tax return in November 2014, bought the ring in Feb 2015, then FI’s grandma died 2 days later, so he proposed at the beginning of March.  We didn’t consider ourselves engaged until he put the ring on my finger even though we bought the ring together.  Our date was chosen in December 2014 based on what would be the least difficult to manage with schedules.

Post # 39
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Congrats!  I think it’s up to you and how long you need to plan…  I got engaged in December (2015) and we will get married in July 2016 (so like 7mos engaged?).  I would have liked more time to plan but sooner is good too =)

As a side note, the wedding WILL be pushed back if I end up getting pregnant but at the moment I’m trying to avoid that (tho we do want a second child, our son’s only 6wks old right now so waiting wouldn’t be bad either!!!). I do NOT want to be a pregnant/chubby bride tho!  Especially since I already got my dress.. hehe!

Post # 40
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We got engaged 12/20/2014 and we officially set a date around march 2015 and got married two weeks ago 12/19/2015 <3 So we got married a year after our engagement ! We did not want to have a super long engagement! 

Post # 41
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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amedeiros08:  It’s been 2 days for me, too, and family members are already asking when the big day is.  Maybe it’s like a generational gap thing?  Did they have shorter engagements back then, and/or did couples set a date to get married before getting engaged back then?   I’m genuinely curious!

Fiance and I want a summer 2017 wedding, so we are just telling family members that we need time to plan and a date has not been set yet, but that we are looking at summer 2017. 

ETA:  Congratulations, by the way!

Post # 42
35 posts

I think the natural follow-up question when you hear of someone’s engagement is “have you set a date?” but actually no one expects you to say “yes!” when you’ve only been engaged for 2 days!   We got engaged in October, set our date one month later, and will be getting married 20 months after engagement (summer ’17, would have done a little sooner but wanted outdoor/summery wedding).

Post # 43
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I got engaged on Christmas Eve at a party of family and close longtime friends. By the time the evening was over we had probably gotten the date question at least three times. Like come on guys, we’ve barely been engaged for a hour yet! Right now we are looking at early December 2017, for financial and availability reasons, so right at a 2 year engagement. The one or two people I’ve mentioned the tentative date to have had a fairly negative reaction to it being so far away (mainly my MIL-to-be. Love her, but she is a little too enthusiastic about this wedding.) I may be able to talk him into moving it up to January or February 2017 as we talk to more vendors and get better ideas of pricing and ways we can stretch the budget, but at the end of the day we both have to be content with the wedding date and where we’ll be financially and in our lives in general at that point.

Post # 44
1936 posts
Buzzing bee

Engaged: 1st of June, 2015

Wedding: 1st of June, 2017

I got into wedding planning reasonably quickly so that I could do it slowly. Not leave it then feel rushed or pressured. It’s working well so far, being able to pick it up and put it down as I wish. I have most details sorted already just nothing booked yet. It hasn’t been hard or stressful other than family bs which would still exist with or without a wedding. 

Post # 45
259 posts
Helper bee

Engaged October 2014 and still no date haha.  A long engagement wasn’t exactly the plan, but at least I have had plenty of time to research venues. =)

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