Post # 1
So I’m just wondering about engagement parties in general. who attends, who hosts etc. My fiance and I got engaged last month and unfortunately for me he wants to finish his university before we get married which means that I have about 2.5 years of waiting ahead :P. I was interested in having an engagement party as a way to bring all of our families and friends together to celebrate and to just have some wedding related fun that would make those 2 years feel less empty lol. I’ve never been to an engagement party though so was wondering if anyone could fill me in. Also when do people usually have them, especially considering if there is a long engagement. I’ve already planned everything out for our wedding but can’t actually book anything until closer to the date so I need something sooner to focus my attention on 🙂
Post # 3
My parents hosted a party for us. It was very casual, just at their house. Both of our families (immediate family, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) were invited. I didn’t actually get to plan anything for the party – my mom felt like they were throwing the party and we should just show up.
Post # 4
Most people are having them these days. Some people have huge ones and others (like mine) are a bit smaller. I have been to the bigger parties…where you have to buy a gift for the engagement party, then the shower, then the wedding. I was totally out of ideas by the time the wedding came around and actually I was bored of celebrating them as a couple. We weren’t that close but the bride wanted to invite everyone to everything.
My inlaws wanted to host one, so I agreed and we did it as a “1 year to go party” so we could celebrate the engagement and look forward to celebrating together a year later. We invited only immediate family (aunts, uncles, and grandparents only) and our bridal party. It was still about 50 people. We had it at my inlaws and had heavy hor doerves and dessert. I also asked guests not to bring gifts, but most did anyway, just little things – like a bottle of champagne or a picture frame. It was a really nice event and I would definitely encourage you to have one. But make some decisions about how you want your guests to feel. As a former guest, I wanted my guests to just come together and celebrate, not shower me with gifts
Post # 5
We’re not having one, but they’re not very traditional in our area. Just had to say we’re another 2.5 year engagement for financial/graduation reasons!
Post # 6
We had 2 because we’re an LDR couple… One hosted by his parents & one hosted by my mom. Ours was basically to get us both to meet both sides of the family before the wedding! Before we were engaged, I had only met his parents, his siblings, their husbands & kids!
In general though, the only people who should be invited to the engagement party are people who are going to be invited to the wedding 🙂
Post # 7
Don’t worry, kierbear! My Fiance and I will have been engaged for 2 years and 4 months by the time the wedding gets here, and I promise…it goes fast! We’re already (almost) one year into the engagement!
Post # 8
We didn’t have an engagament party but I sometimes wish we did…that is okay though because I get two bridal showers 😉
Post # 9
We hosted an engagement party ourselves about 2 months after our engagement so that we could celebrate with friends. Our families are hosting a party for us a few months before we get married (our engagement is 14 months). I liked doing it ourselves (we filled our wine rack!) but are excited to celebrate again.
Post # 10
FH and I will be engaged for 2 yrs & 5 mos. by the time our wedding comes. We’re having and engagement party hosted by his mom. Very small, very casual backyard bbq. Only immediate blood family invited (it stops at uncles & aunts) and the wedding entourage w/ their spouses. We are using the engagement party to introduce our entourage to the family members and to introduce each others families. We are also having games to “test” how well the guests know us individually and as a couple. (We are not having a bridal shower so we are having this instead.)