Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Hi bees! I was talking with my mom the other day about where Fiance and i are goin to get our engagement pictures done. Then she texted: “Can we throw you an engagement party??”
Well… I don’t know! I’m just not sure how I feel about it. We got engaged at the beginning of Feb and my mom was talking about having it in September, which would be a year from our actual wedding date.
I have never been to an engagement party but have definitely heard of them. The though. Of other people having them doesn’t rub me the wrong way at all, I’d gladly attend someone else’s. However for some reason I feel uncomfortable and I can’t quite put my finger on it. My mother’s best friend (who is the mother of my Maid/Matron of Honor, we’ve been besties since birth lol) already had told my mom she’d offer to host a casual backyard shindig at her place (they have an AMAZING backyard.) but something still sort of tugs at me. Is it too far away from my engagement to have a party? Have you bees had one? Have you been to others?
Thoughts?! Thank you!!
Post # 10
E-parties are very common in my area – most people I know had one and we are certainly having one, in my FI’s parent back yard. Then again, I come from the vanity capital of the world, haha. I say go for it and keep the size to your comfort level. If you mom is offeringm why not have a fun celebration?
Post # 11
I would def. have one! My mom is throwing one for us next weekend…it’s really just gonig to be a super casual summer cookout with family and close friends (probably between 40-50 people). We did invite people we are certain will be coming to the wedding. I agree with the other bees-if you have someone offering, go for it! Keep it as simple, small and casual as you’d like and have a great time 🙂
Post # 12
I REALLY didn’t want an engagement party but my father insisted (they’re quite common in the turkish culture) and it was actually a really good night
here’s I am in my engagement dress ooops the pic is so big?
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If we had had a longer engagement (ours is 6 months exactly), we would have had one- in Dad’s backyard. And it would have been exactly as you described- low key, family and bridal party, meet & greet.
Post # 14
I think you should and let your mom go ahead and have fun hosting it. I think it’ll be fine. You don’t have to register so people don’t bring gifts…just have a fun night of food and drinks, some cake and a toast to the couple.
My engagement party will be a few weeks before the wedding. Its technically a serenade and it done in fi’s family and culture closer to the wedding date. We’re having a trio or mariachi and I super excited. No gifts… just food and drinks.
Post # 15
I don’t really want one, but Fiance said he does. I think it’s another unnecesary party, especially for us since we’re having such a small low-key wedding. But I suppose it would be a good chance for our immediate families to get to know each other.
Post # 16
we had an engagement party but then it’s pretty common in Scotland 🙂
I think it’s a good excuse for everyone to mingle and get to know each other before the wedding, and if you’re having a long engagement it lets everyone celebrate your happy news before they have to wait for the wedding.
My bridesmaids all got to know each other at our engagement party and have bonded well since, and it let the families spend time together xx
Post # 17
My fiance and I threw ourselves an engagement party because we were so happy and excited (and all our friends and family wanted us to)! His mom let us hold it in her backyard, and we made it a luau. We decorated like crazy and got leis and flowers for all guests to wear. We roasted a pig, and had everyone bring a dish to share. It was a TON of fun and people got to bond with each other and meet people who would be at the wedding. We got a few presents, which I totally wasn’t expecting, we didn’t know people gave engagment presents! But we had enough champagne to drink for months! We held the party 1 year and 1 month before our wedding and it was perfect :). Do it!! I’d say backyard bbq is the way to go!