Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Hi bees! I was talking with my mom the other day about where Fiance and i are goin to get our engagement pictures done. Then she texted: “Can we throw you an engagement party??”
Well… I don’t know! I’m just not sure how I feel about it. We got engaged at the beginning of Feb and my mom was talking about having it in September, which would be a year from our actual wedding date.
I have never been to an engagement party but have definitely heard of them. The though. Of other people having them doesn’t rub me the wrong way at all, I’d gladly attend someone else’s. However for some reason I feel uncomfortable and I can’t quite put my finger on it. My mother’s best friend (who is the mother of my Maid/Matron of Honor, we’ve been besties since birth lol) already had told my mom she’d offer to host a casual backyard shindig at her place (they have an AMAZING backyard.) but something still sort of tugs at me. Is it too far away from my engagement to have a party? Have you bees had one? Have you been to others?
Thoughts?! Thank you!!
Post # 3
None of my friends had an engagement party and I just don’t think it’s done in my area. Although, FI’s aunt asked if we were going to have one, but she’s in a different state, so maybe it is regional? We aren’t having one. We’d feel odd hosting it ourselves, since no one ever offered, and nearly everyone we’d want to attend is out-of-state. I don’t know – the idea of engagement parties are a little bizarre to me. Engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor/ette parties, the wedding – it all seems excessive to me.
Post # 4
My parents hosted one for us. We had a fabulous time, we live in FL and my parents had it at their home in NY, so it was the first time we saw most people since the engagement. We got engaged in Feb 11, engagement party was in June and the wedding was in April 12. I wouldn’t worry about the timing, people are just excited to celebrate with you. Don’t deprive yourself of that opportunity, especially if you have hosts offering!
Post # 5
We did not have an engagement party, but my feeling is, if your mom’s friend wants to throw one, let her do it! Just remember, don’t invite anyone to the engagement party who won’t be invited to the wedding!
Post # 6
FI’s parents threw us one for all of the people from his hometown bc we were up there for Christmas which was just a few weeks after we got engaged. It was really nice and really fun and allowed me to meet some of their family friends that are invited to the wedding that I otherwise would never have met. The only other one I’ve been to was a surprise one for a friend of ours and it was fun but super low key.
Post # 7
My parents threw an engagement party for us. We got engaged in April 2010 and our party was in July 2010. Only family and bridal party were invited, so it wasn’t too big (about 50 people, I have a big family.) Everybody was super excited and a few people brought us some gifts. It was also the first time our familes met.
If somebody wants to throw a party for you, I say go for it! It’s a great way for everybody to meet and celebrate your engagement.
Post # 8
I felt the exact same way when I parents mentioned throwing us an engagement party. In the end I agreed, and I’m so happy I did. My parents rented out the back room of a restaurant. We had about 30 people. It was the first time my parents met my FI’s dad, as well as some other extended family. We had a great time and it made us both that much more excited for the wedding weekend.
Also, I second what @Beckster329
said…make sure whoever you invite you will definitely want to invite to the wedding!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Thanks so far bees!! Yes I would def want to keep it small and mostly family/bridal party. I hadnt thought of it as a way for two sides to meet… His parents and mine have met but it would be nice for more family members to meet! And our bridal party could meet. That way I dont feel so…. Attention grabby? I hate to use that word and I wouldnt think anyone else was if they threw one, but for some reason I felt like it would be if I did lol.
Post # 10
E-parties are very common in my area – most people I know had one and we are certainly having one, in my FI’s parent back yard. Then again, I come from the vanity capital of the world, haha. I say go for it and keep the size to your comfort level. If you mom is offeringm why not have a fun celebration?
Post # 11
I would def. have one! My mom is throwing one for us next weekend…it’s really just gonig to be a super casual summer cookout with family and close friends (probably between 40-50 people). We did invite people we are certain will be coming to the wedding. I agree with the other bees-if you have someone offering, go for it! Keep it as simple, small and casual as you’d like and have a great time 🙂
Post # 12
I REALLY didn’t want an engagement party but my father insisted (they’re quite common in the turkish culture) and it was actually a really good night
here’s I am in my engagement dress ooops the pic is so big?
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If we had had a longer engagement (ours is 6 months exactly), we would have had one- in Dad’s backyard. And it would have been exactly as you described- low key, family and bridal party, meet & greet.
Post # 14
I think you should and let your mom go ahead and have fun hosting it. I think it’ll be fine. You don’t have to register so people don’t bring gifts…just have a fun night of food and drinks, some cake and a toast to the couple.
My engagement party will be a few weeks before the wedding. Its technically a serenade and it done in fi’s family and culture closer to the wedding date. We’re having a trio or mariachi and I super excited. No gifts… just food and drinks.
Post # 15
I don’t really want one, but Fiance said he does. I think it’s another unnecesary party, especially for us since we’re having such a small low-key wedding. But I suppose it would be a good chance for our immediate families to get to know each other.
Post # 16
we had an engagement party but then it’s pretty common in Scotland 🙂
I think it’s a good excuse for everyone to mingle and get to know each other before the wedding, and if you’re having a long engagement it lets everyone celebrate your happy news before they have to wait for the wedding.
My bridesmaids all got to know each other at our engagement party and have bonded well since, and it let the families spend time together xx