(Closed) Engagement Party?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Shonzilla:  Have his parents offered to host this?  Engagement parties are something someone hosts for you, in your honor (and traditionally, it is the bride’s parents hosting, to “announce” the engagement — but more recently, others have taken on the host role).  I think having a dinner with your two familes would be nice though, if it’s been six years and they haven’t met!

Post # 4
8676 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Shonzilla:  An engagement party (according to Ita Buttrose, Australian etiquette queen) should be held within 6 months of getting engaged but preferable closer to the date of engagement as possible.

My parents threw us an engagement party in their backyard. It was just a casual BBQ. My sister had her engagement party at the local RSL club. There was definately too different vibes. I prefered the casual backyeard vibe.

Why not allow your FIL’s to throw you one this summer? Who doesn’t like a nice backyard BBQ during summer? Beer  fro the adults and snags for the kids!


Post # 6
8676 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Shonzilla:  It probably cost about $2000. We put on beer, wine, breezers and soft drink. We just had snags, hamburgers, vegie burgers and assorted salads. We also had a sheet cake from the local bakery and mum and I made some pavlovas and chocolate ripple cakes because they were easy to do. We had about 80 people because I have a large family.

It was a hot afternoon/evening so we put the slippery dip on for the kids and then just let them play backyard cricket, keepings off and tag.


Post # 8
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Shonzilla:  We recently had our engagement barbecue, and we had been together for just over 5 years without our families meeting (well, more than a brief “hello” anyway). We had just shy of 30 people over at my parents’ house, and it was jointly hosted by my parents and my partner and I (he did all the cooking, since he’s a chef). I don’t see a problem with hosting it yourself at all. We had ours 4 months after the official engagement, but I don’t think it’s wrong to wait longer, since it’s informal and more about family meeting anyway!

For food, we went a little gourmet I guess, and ended up spending a few hundred dollars there. Alcohol was another few hundred. So maybe about $600-$700 in total. Then we decorated with balloons, lanterns, and flowers.

It was really casual but the weather turned out perfect (saying a lot for Victoria…) and everyone enjoyed themselves. I much preferred it to the formal engagement my BFF had earlier this year.

Post # 9
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We just got engaged on Wednesday after being together for almost 6 years. 

I don’t really want an engagement party but my fiancé does, so we will probably have one in maybe February next year, bit busy beforenthen with Christmas and everything. 


We will probably have it at a local pub, it’s really nice and you can hire out different sections of it, we will probably hire out part of the roof top bar. I’m expecting to spend around $2000. We will probably have about 100 people there, inviting about 180 to the wedding but a fair amount are interstate.

Post # 10
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@kmb727:  in Australia an engagement party is pretty customary and the couples generally host it themselves. Pretty ich everyone I know that has got engaged has held and engagement party on their own, generally at their house or somewhere similar.


@shonzilla I’m a perth bee toooo! Congrats.

 I think 6 months is fine for an  engagement party ours will be 4 months later due To Xmas and new years etc. our is in January so no doubt it will be boiling. Plus if your wedding is years away it will still be a big break between the party and wedding. Have fun!





Post # 11
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Russell's Pizza House

We got engaged in May 2013 and will have our engagement party May 2014. 

You only do it once so do exactly what you want to do and your friends and family will be happy for you. 

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