Post # 1
My Fiance’s parents want to throw us an engagement party. My future mother in law asked if I was going to register. I said that I wasn’t, but am I suppose to? I don’t want anyone to feel like they are obligated to give us a present or money. I just want to have everyone together to celebrate. So do I register or not?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Some guests might want to bring gifts. I’d recommend registering for some small items on the cheaper end of the scale.
Post # 4
Think of this way, do you ever go to friend’s party empty-handed? Don’t you want to bring something small, at least?
Well, people usually like to give gifts because that is there way of showing their love/excitement/well-wishes for the couple. So even though you don’t feel comfortable, you’re guest won’t know what to get you if you don’t register. Some or most will still bring a gift, probably, so at least it should be something you like.
One idea is to register for your honeymoon. You can pick things you want to do on your honeymoon or places you want to go. Ex: you pick a candle lit dinner at a nice restaurant and your aunt can put $60 dollars towards the meal. She’s helping pay for something, you’d like on your honeymoon. Here is a link to a honeymoon registry it’s called Honeyfund.
Post # 5
I didn’t register for my engagement party. Mostly because it was just so far away from the wedding. We got engaged in March 2008 and my parents threw our engagement party that summer. At that point, our wedding was almost two years away.
People brought wine, champagne, picture frames, etc. It worked out fine.
Post # 6
I think we had registered before my Future Mother-In-Law threw us an engagement party, but we hadn’t really thought about whether or not people would use it. I didn’t even think people would bring gifts to something like that.
We did end up receiving gifts from some guests, but they were like, bottles of wine, a nice bottle of whiskey, some money, some delicious baked goods – just random things like that.
Post # 7
We had one and so did FBIL/FSIL but neither of us registered. My understanding was that the engagement party was to introduce the families and have everyone get aquainted before all the festivities. We got cards and some cash but it wasn’t a registry-worthy party.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry too much about registering until the bridal shower comes along. Someone who brings a gift will most likely bring something simple that you can use.
Post # 9
Registering for an engagment party might make guests feel obligated to get you a gift! So many gifts with weddings: bach party, bridal shower, wedding… If they offer, that’s very nice but I would just focus on celebrating the engagement. I usually bring wine to engagement parties 🙂