(Closed) Engagement Party Advice NEEDED

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1615 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Who is hosting the party?  If your parents, can they label it, welcome back home Island and Pennisula?  I would just not label ti an engagement party.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You don’t throw your own engagement party. This is why. Hosted events can have guests who aren’t invited to the party. If you are throwing your own party, don’t make it to celebrate yourselves/ your engagement

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I second @MrsBroccoli The only engagement parties I’ve attended/my own were hosted by someone other than the bride and groom. They’ve been given by parents or other relatives or close family frineds. That being said, everyone invoted to the engagemnet party was invited to the wedding. As a guest, if I am invited to an engagement party, I 100% assume that I’m invited to the actual wedding. To be honest, if I was invited to an engagement party, then wasn’t invited to the wedding, I’d be pissed. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

We’re hosting our own party too. It’s our engagement, our decision and friends and family will help out here and there with food and prep but it didn’t occur to me at all that someone else should be hosting/throwing it..

Haven’t known anyone else to have done that either. Maybe it’s a kiwi thing!

But all of my friends and family will be invited to celebrate. Whether that means that we can have everyone at the wedding or not is another story. It means we get to involve everyone in our journey without having a few hundred people at our wedding and a nice big debt. 

To be honest if any of my friends/family didn’t understand that I don’t know if I’d really want them there in the first place.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Italy

@island_bee:  You’re so welcome!

Everyone is different and it’s YOUR choice so make it your own and who cares about the rest!

I think a lot of people need to remember that 🙂

I’m glad you feel better! Looking forward to seeing pictures of the party!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@island_bee:  I think that’s totally reasonable!  Although I will say that I have an Australian friend who got engaged around the same time I did, and it definitely seems like Australian engagement parties are a bigger deal there (she was explaining to me about the wishing well and all that stuff, which I’d never heard of before).  But either way, even if you wind up having a small destination wedding, I’m sure people will just be happy to participate in your happy event in some way!

So I say, just include all the people you want to be there – and then find a place to host it that can include that many people within your budget (even if it’s super casual)!

Post # 12
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Worker bee

@MrsBroccoli:  I agree with her. As far as I know you don’t throw your own engagement party. When I was talking to my co workers, they all said throwing your own is really tacky. 

*I want to have an engagement party but not sure if anyone is willing to do it for us..

but also I realize may people don’t have an engagement party.. 

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