Post # 1
Is it acceptable not to invite all of the wedding guests to the engagement party? Granted the wedding itself will only be about 50-60 guests. But I was hoping to keep the partya small and intimate no-gifts affair for about 20 local friends. I don’t want a shower or a bachelorett. Just one low-key evening before the wedding. Can I get that if I call it something else?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@Corranthe: It is perfectly fine not to invite all the wedding guests to the engagement party, as long as you invite to the wedding everyone who was invited to the engagement party. You don’t even have to call it something else.
Post # 5
In my social circle, engagement parties are not gift-giving events. Gifts are usually given at the bridal shower or the actual wedding. If I am understanding your question, you want to know if you’ll be breaking any etiquette guidelines by inviting only a few people to your engagement party… which is ok. The only thing you have to watch out for is inviting people to pre-wedding parties who are NOT invited to the wedding.
Post # 6
Of course!!! We invited ~40 people to our engagement party, and we’re expecting ~140 guests at our wedding. You can’t always invite everyone! Especially coworkers and people you don’t know as well, and out-of-town guests. I think a 20-person party sounds fine, and you don’t have to name it… you could just write on the invitation, “Join us for a party to celebrate the upcoming wedding of XXX and XXX” or something like that.
Post # 7
Yes, more than fine! But like as PPs said…make sure that everyone you invite to the engagement party gets invited to the wedding.
In fact, if you invite everyone to your engagement party, it’s like you’re having 2 weddings. In my experience and area (the Northeast US), engagemnt parties are close family and bridal party…congrats and have fun!
Post # 8
my wedding is going to have what we guess to be 120 people in attendace but our engagement party had about 20. I think that engagement parties are meant to be close and intiment (meaning only those super close and extra important to you attend) so i see nothing wrong with what you are wanting!
Post # 9
Yes, definitely. You shouldn’t invite people who won’t be invited to the wedding, but it’s perfectly fine to not invite all wedding guests to an engagement party.