(Closed) engagement party etiquette

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We invited our close friends and family. We had about 30 people at my house for a BBQ. We didn’t want anything too huge and we kept it casual so we just called people up and said "hey come over! We’re having burgers!" and it was a blast

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t think you have to invite everyone that you’re inviting to the wedding.  I think that if you invite close friends and family and others that live in the area you should be covered.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

We let our engagement party serve as a way for the two families to meet each other. We invited close family and the bridal party.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are also using the time for both families to meet. We invited all the grandparents and aunts/uncles and then the wedding party. Our total guest list is about 80 people. Ours is coming up soon… we chose to do a luau theme, is anyone else doing, or did  a themed engagement party?

Post # 7
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Newbee

I think it’s fine to not invite some people that will be invited to the wedding – of course, the engagement party doesn’t have to be as big as the wedding!

 But I think inviting people to the engagement party that won’t be invited to the wedding, if only the evening party, would be a different matter!

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Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We only invited our immediate families, and my close aunts and uncles, just the people we see all the time, it was very nice and intimate.

It all adds up, so I say save it for the wedding and just invite the people your really close to, to celebrate this special event with you.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

We invited only immediate family so that they could meet each other… we didn’t even invite our bridal party because we hadn’t totally settled on who it would be yet. It would probably be bad form to invite people to the engagement party won’t be invited to the wedding, and unless you’re absolutely committed to your current guestlist, you might want to be conservative! 😉

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are having a BBQ at my parents’ house over the summer at some point TBD and just doing close friends and family. We’re inviting the wedding party members but there are a lot of OOTs so I don’t think many will be able to make it. I’d say keep it small. Engagement parties aren’t for everyone. IMO they are mostly for the families to meet and get to know each other better, and I don’t think you need to worry about offending people because I definitely wouldn’t expect an invite to an engagement party if I was just going to be a guest at the wedding. Heck I don’t even assume I’ll be invited to weddings anymore considering all the guest list drama I’m dealing with and have dealt with with other peoples’ weddings.

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