- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing my fiance and I an engagement party next weekend..it’s been set for about 1.5 months. It’s a great chance for our families to meet since his family lives 3 hours away and we’ve only been dating just about 11 months (engaged before 9 months ).
My Future Mother-In-Law is INISITING I wear a sash or pin for my engagement party that says Bride or Bride to Be. This is not my thing, everyone will already know, I mean it is an engagement party after all. She mentioned getting something matching for my fiance.
What do I do??? Am I being petty? Do I let this blow over and just wear it? There have already been a few minor things come up that bothered me so it’s kind of just building though I love her dearly so I do not want to be difficult.
My fiance is out of town so I texted him to call me and I will ask his opinion. He may just tell her as he has no problems telling his parents how it is (“no, we do not need a 2nd reception…” <——– Yes that happened). Or he may say I/we have to go with it…
His mom called tonight to say hi & check in about the engagement party. She asked if I was open to wearing a corsage/flower and a “Bride-to-Be” item. This is not my thing at all so I slowly talked through it and said “sure/yes”to sash/pin (out of all items she named i.e. tiara, baseball hat). I then came back to it and said is it a flower or bride-to-be item and she said did not know, maybe both. She said I have to be center of attention, etc. She said she would see what party store has..sash, baseball, pin…She said she would get a matching “Groom” item. She also mentioned a tiara. At this point, I tried to be nice and joke that I would wear white or something cute to stand out. She said this is the only time in my life I can be center of attention and I should enjoy it. I mentioned that I’d be wearing something cute and that I wouldn’t want a sash/etc it in pictures. She said I could picture do with and without the pin/sash or whatever she chooses. The conversation basically ended with her saying “Okay…?” Like she was asking but she’s not. It was more a “okay, were done now right”.
I can’t believe I’m stressing about this. It’s so petty. Maybe I am? But I don’t think so.
I’d think someone would say “Hey, I saw some cute Bride sashes/pins at the party store, would you want to wear that for any upcoming event?” That’s what I’ve done when I was a bridesmaid.
A couple of gf’s say I just need to say I do not like being center of attention, I already have enough and I have my dress on my big day, etc. How do I do without offending her? If it were my mom, this would be easy, “Nahh..mom, we’re not doing that”. Unfortunately, my mom passed away 12 yrs ago.
I feel like I may be being a diva/bridezilla but I’m nicely trying to say “thank you, but you don’t have to do that”