Post # 1
My finace and I have been together for 5 and a half years, and finally got engaged in March! Due to money and health issues, we decided to go to Rome, and have a ceremony for just the two of us. We would do a brunch with family afterwards, but the big celebration with friends is a different story. In order to spread out the cost and stress of everything, we would like to wait until our 1st anniversary to have a big bash with everyone.
Can we do an Engagment party? We woundn’t register or ask for anything, but a small part of me is hoping they will give a little to help with the cost of the trip.
Post # 2
No- unless it’s a party of two. You can’t politely invite people to pre wedding events who arent invited to the wedding. It’s just rude. By eloping you’re foregoing the bells and whistles of pre wedding events.
Not to be a party poop, but I’m sure you could pay for a reception for the price of a trip for two to Rome no? (Assuming youre from the US or Canada, that is). Just curious because you cited $ as a reason. Throwing an engagement party would still set you back some dough too, so for that and etiquette reasons id skip it.
Post # 3
What she said. Use the money an engagement party would have cost you to pay for your own trip to Rome.
Post # 4
Why did you post this three times?
Regardless, my answer is the same – don’t throw a party for the purpose of celebrating yourself, and definitely don’t invite people who arne’t invited to the wedding.
And it’s incredibly rude to host a party with the hopes that people will give you money. Unless you’re a registered charity.
Post # 5
I agree on the etiquette/hospitality level with everyone else–it’s unseemly to host a party that’s all about you, especially if part of your motivation for doing so is to potentially collect $$$$ gifts. On a practical level, in the USA the norm for engagement parties is that only small gifts are expected if gifts are even presented at all, so if you/your guests are American, then an engagement party probably isn’t going to be an effective fundraiser.