Post # 1
Hello bees! I hope all is well!
I will get right to the point. T make a long story short, my parents eloped and know nothing about weddings. They said thare support me, but don’t know how to help, and I understand. My Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want to be involved at all. So I have come to the conclusion that I have to do everything myself but at least I get to do it MY way.
Anyway, I would like to throw an “engagement party” for my fiancé and I. We don’t want anything formal – just a pool party and BBQ, no gifts! We just want to celebrate our engagement with our families and close friends, and to introduce everyone to each other. Nothing fancy.
I need advice on how to do this. I have seen mixed opinions about throwing your own engagement party. And I want to throw one but am afraid of looking selfish for throwing a party for ourselves since no one else will do it. I don’t expect a parade of attention, but I would like to celebrate us. Please help!
Post # 3
it is absolutely ok to do that 🙂 sounds like a great idea, my Fiance and i just had a small drinks/nibblies party at his house this past weekend. and by small, i mean small, there were 9 of us! we just made an event on facebook, kept it casual 🙂 hope this helps 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii
i’ve been to engagement parties thrown by the couple and didn;t think twice about it. as long as you send the message that you want to have your favorite people together and celebrate/thank them for being supportive in your relationship, it doesn;t come off as weird at all. everyone is so excited for you two! 🙂
Post # 5
Is there a certain way I should word any e-mails or invites? Would e-mails be an accept form of invitation since it is so casual? Thanks ladies! I am a young bride with no wedding experience and no help; I will take any advice I can get! Haha!
Post # 6
E-mails should be fine, and word it casually:
we are having a casual pool party/bbq to celebrate our engagement
date, time & location
ps. no gifts please :)’
but of course it depends on the generations attending, older people may not be so comfortable with that, like grandparents, etc
Post # 7
Why not plan and do lots of work but have your parents play host. I did all the decor for my engagement party and had a friend and my parent set it up for me. We are doing all the planning for our rehearsal dinner as well and have bought most everything however our parents again will be playing host so no one will need to bother us to refill the wine or do all the bbq’ing if we dont feel like it.
Post # 8
We had a catered dinner hosted by my parents at the local inn and we left the food and decor up to the owners. It was very intimate (less than 20 people) and it gave the families a chance to mix, mingle and meet.
For invites, we just printed some out on pretty stationary (less than $25 including postage) and sent them out. Just along the lines of “You are invited to a party celebrating the engagement of Future Mrs. Christian and Mr. Christian at location, located at that place on determined date at said time. Looking forward to seeing you there!”
I really hope you have fun!