Post # 1
To start with, hey 🙂 I’m new to Wedding Bee and i got engaged recently 🙂
My maid of honour and sister wants to throw me an engagement party and she basically has everything ready, but i really don’t want to go. No one else feels the same way as me and my fiance thinks it is a great idea but i hate attention and being the main focus, i just get so embarrassed (don’t know how i’m going to walk down the aisle!) I used to suffer from social anxiety and i have got much better but i still avoid big crowds, my fiance says he will help me but i’m still not convinced, do you think i should go or not??
Post # 3
I think you should go Could you have it on or near a major holiday? (ie christmas, new years, etc.) That way all out of town people may be in town an she can throw a combined Engagment//Holiday party and all the focus won’t be on you.
Post # 4
I feel the same way! But it will me more like a big family get together…. or celebrating your birthday i suppose. Though it is in your honor, it’s not like people are going to follow you around all night or stare at you , lol. It is just a chance for you to celebrate with people that are close to you the awesome news of your engagement, and also for both sides of the samily to have a chance to get together and meet each other before your big day! And it can be a BIG or a little as you would like. Plus… if people making you the main focus makes you nervous… this is the perfect practice run through for your big day when people REALLY will be wanting to take a moment of your time, will be watching you as you walk down the isle and through out your ceremony, etc.
But, ultimately whether or not you have an e-party is up to you. My Fiance and I had one becuase we were having a long engagement, and it was just really close family and friends so i never felt socially awkward. It was also a really good chance for you family’s to mingle.
Post # 5
i think it might be a good way to get the anxiety jitters our of the way. You will find that everyone at the party is happy for you and wishes you the best, much like on your wedding day. If you go, it’ll be good practice for the wedding.
Try this, write down everything you don’t like about the party or everythig bad that could happen and make a plan for those contigencies. Hopefully you’,ll see you don’t have anything to really worry about!
Post # 6
If it’s your engagement party, you need to show up! 🙂 Have you talked to her about how you feel? Maybe she can tone it down and have a smaller guest list?
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
Honestly, if you wont have fun I dont think you should do it. That being said, does it matter thats it all family and friends? That helps some people feel better. Or maybe insist on something small and intimate. That way your Maid/Matron of Honor and sister get to do something for you and you dont have to deal with a crowd.
Post # 8
Go go go! Like PPs said, it will be more like a big family reunion, and if you need to, you could always take a moment to yourself away from the party to calm your nerves. 🙂 Enjoy!