(Closed) Engagement party invitation etiquette?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I wouldn’t think it was weird. Maybe do an evite with everyones email? That would be way cheaper than paper invitations and befitting to the casual event that you’re describing?

The only really strict part of engagement parties is that you should NEVER invite people who won’t be invited to the wedding. Only wedding guests. Period. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper

Invitations can match the formality of the event. An email invitation or evite is fine for a casual party. My only concern would be your older guests, some of whom may not check or use email regularly. If in doubt, I’d mail invitations to those people or to everyone. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’ve only ever been to 3 engagement parties (including my own). None of them had formal invitations. They were all in a private room at a bar or at someone’s house. The invites were either done via email/evite of Facebook invite. I think for our engagement party (which was thrown by my husband’s best man) the host just texted people. It was very casual. 

If I got a paper invite to an engagement party in the mail, I’d assume it was a fancy affair. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We had 2 engagement parties and i’m using the term party pretty loosly for the first one. It was the weekend after and we texted all our friends to come out for drinks and we reserved an area. 

The other party was a famly party and we sent paper invites for that. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Galleria Marchetti

I think an email or e-vite is perfect. Casual, but still informative for your older guests. I love Paperless Post for e-vites, but have also used Punchbowl.

ETA: If you do just send an email, make sure you send it BCC so your guests aren’t getting a million emails from people who reply all…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I got 50 adorable invites for mine because older family members dont use the computer (and 50 was the minimum buying number) they got delayed and I think we gave out only 5, everyone just asked an replied online or through family… HUGE waste of money (as where the custom monogramed ‘address cards’ and ‘advice cards’ – everyone was suppose to write their postal address on for when we send invites out and not 1 single person did so we are still missing a huge amount of addresses undecided)

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We did paper invitations for ours, but we could have done an evite or facebook event if older members of the family weren’t invited. I definitely think an evite or facebook event would be easier, especialy if your crowd is on the younger side. 🙂

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I personally think that getting engaged and married is a once in a life time event (hopefully) and more than just a party.  An email or phone call to a party is okay, but for such a big and special event, take it up a notch and make it so with getting proper stationery printed.  You don’t have to spend a forture either. I acutally got my engagement party invites cheaply printed from costco and they turned out fab. This post will help you with wording your invites.wink

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I was wondering this as well. I will probably do evite.

On that note, does anyone know when you should send the invite for an engagement party? It’s not like the actual wedding so I don’t think it needs to go out 6 month in advance. We got engaged in Dec. but we are waiting for Aug to have the engagement party because out of town friends will be in town then. I received a save the date for a friend’s wedding in Aug this month (Feb) so it made me wonder if I should also send the invites for our engagement party.

Thanks!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We had a super casual backyard BBQ engagement party. We did a Facebook event. Grandparents and the other few not on FB were invited over the phone. Everything worked out fine!

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