Post # 1
My fiance and I became engaged a month ago and are getting married in 4 months. One of our groomsmen offered to throw us an engagement party the moment the good news was announced. I was expecting something to be arranged for early June, but June is here and there are no arrangements for the party as of yet. Last night I suggested that maybe instead we should do a couples shower since we are approaching the date so quickly. Before everything is planned and arranged for an engagement party I’m afraid it will be mid July.
Has anyone opted to do something like a couples shower instead of an engagement party?
I’m open to y’alls thoughts!
Post # 3
We didn’t have an engagement party, we didn’t feel it was important. But we did opt for the couples shower, mostly because I’m not a girlie girl and don’t have many close girlfriends that I would want to put through an afternoon of oooohhhing and ahhhing over silly things. Plus, most of our friends are couples, so we thought it better to just invite everyone to a nice afternoon of BBQ and beer. I love the idea of the couples shower, I feel like it honors the bride AND the groom… I’m not the only one getting married here!
Post # 4
I didn’t have that situtation. But I admire that you are trying to make things a little easier on your friends and family by trying to have a two in one, event.
I think it would make sense to try for a couples shower. Who knows what’s up with the groomsmen. Maybe he forgot. This is probably why boys don’t plan these things anyway. If there is someone else you can use to feel around. Another Bp attendant, perhaps, can bring up to the other Bridal Party attendants about having a shower, Then this groomsmen will get heads up. If he forgot, no biggie. If he had been starting to plan, they can join forces, and he won’t get his toes stepped on.
Post # 5
My sister just had one shower (boys and girls came, but not necessarily couples) and it was so much more fun than a tea or bridal shower! I am planning on going this route too! I think everyone would enjoy this more anyways!
Post # 6
I think I’d rather have a couples shower, I hope my fiance agrees. I am definately not a fan of bridal showers, and I do agree that this would be much more fun and relaxed.
Post # 7
I’m having a couples shower since I don’t have a ton of girl friends, I don’t like wedding showers, and I definitely want my fiance to be there. I felt it would be more fun that way, especially since it has a mystery theme, but I guess I’ll find out next weekend.
Post # 8
I think you should go w/ the couples shower since you are getting close ot your wedding at this point…sounds fun though!
Post # 9
We are doing a wedding shower where men and women may come. Our main reason for this is because my fiance will be returning from his 6 month deployment right before the wedding. I felt that it would be a good idea this way he can get reacquainted with everyone before the wedding. Your best best would be to do that, since it is close to the wedding already.
Post # 10
yah i was thinking of not going the bacherolette/bachelor party route since we both arent really into it and was just thinking of doing a couples shower since we had an engagement party and only the wedding party and family were involved in that so we can involve more of our friends
Post # 11
We had an engagement party thrown nearly a year after getting engaged. No one thought twice about it. We also had a Mexican Kitchen Party (the word SHOWER never appeared – no games – no cliche or "girly" shower stuff) – it was great for both of us.