Post # 1
Both of our bosses have very generously offered to throw us engagement parties, but I’m having problems with the guest lists. I have read conflicting information about whether or not you are limited to inviting to the engagement party only those people who are invited to the wedding. Martha Stewart says they don’t have to be invited to the wedding and who better to get etiquette advice from? But I’ve read several other places that the person must be invited to the wedding in order to invite them to the engagement party.
Since these parties are being thrown by people other than us or our family, what rules apply? I’m so confused!
Post # 3
Hmmm.. I dont know what the proper rules are but I see an engagement party as a celebration of the engagement… separate from a shower or wedding where is its celebrating the actual wedding. I think its okay to have a e-party and not feel obligated to invite all those guests to the wedding.
Post # 4
One of our co-workers got engaged about a month ago. Knowing that she would not be able to invite everyone from the office, we all pitched in to throw her an engagement party this week. They got eloped last weekend, so it’s more of a "wedding celebration" party, but nobody expected to be invited to the wedding just because they were invited to the engagement party. I think you will be well within the bounds of good etiquette to have people at the engagement party who will not be invited to the wedding.