(Closed) Engagement party – Should I register?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had never heard of e-parties until WB and honestly, I don’t see why you WOULD register for gifts! And if you aren’t expecting gifts then you shouldn’t feel like you need to register.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Fiance and I had our engagement party last summer and I was shocked that people bought us gifts! The week before the party we had a few people ask us to register, so we put together a small list at Target. We were thinking maybe 2 or 3 people would get us something, but almost everybody showed up with a gift! We got some bath towels, kitchen gadgets, a big pan, some cookie sheets and a blender. I know there was more, but I don’t remember what else. If people are asking about a registry, and you don’t mind putting a small one together, why not do it? People who want to get you something will be thankful. Have fun at your party!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I have literally never heard of people registering for engagement parties! That’s what the wedding reistry is for.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would be pretty put off if I was invited to an engagement party that had a registry associated with it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have been to lots of engagement parties and I have never taken a gift. I would wait for your shower and wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law insisted that we register for our engagement party.. but to balance it out I insisted that she not mention the registry on the invitation… and Fiance and I just made a small wishlist on target.com, not even under the name bridal registry that she could send people to if they asked, and honestly we got a few things off of it but mostly we got money. I was really shocked by all the gifts though.. it seemed like a lot to me. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissDonnaAnne: That’s what we did. Fiance and I didn’t mention a list, but I know people asked my parents about it. If we didn’t get people asking us to put one together, it wouldn’t have crossed our minds…we just wanted to party!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We didn’t register. People asked my parents and they said we had not registered. They brought gifts anyway. We got gift cards, lots of picture frames, and lots of wine. The registry is (IMO) more for the bridal shower.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

We’re not registering and don’t expect gifts. We aren’t an “established” couple, we don’t have any joint belongings and nothing to start a new home (like…not even forks!!!). I’m pretty sure that since both of our families know this they will bring some small starter gifts to the e-party. We don’t expect it though.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 I’ve only been to one engagement party where the couple registered.  And to be honest, no one liked that (well, we didn’t like the bride-to-be so maybe that influenced us).  In the past we’ve brought a gift certificate for a night out, a bottle of nice wine, and a yard flag with the couples initial.  Just something small to say congrats!  A a heads up, when you do receive gifts do not open them in front of everyone.  The bride to be that registered made her engagement party into a shower and it rubbed everyone the wrong way. 

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We registered before our e party and I’m so glad we did. We got SO much off the registry, it was awesome!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We started our registry this past week but our e-party isn’t until August. I didn’t want to do it so soon but we’ve had family members asking us where we’re registered ever since we announced our engagement in April. It’s pretty weird– were they expecting us to register before we were even engaged? I’ve told everyone that gifts aren’t expected but some people are going to bring gifts no matter what. They might as well be things we actually want. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I just attended an engagement party last weekend and I was glad they were registered. We’ve always gotten gifts for people’s engagement parties, and since this one was for a friend of my Darling Husband it was nice to have a registry to shop from, since Darling Husband is clueless about what to buy for people.

I’d say go ahead and register, but only give out the info to people who specifically ask, that way it doesn’t look like your seeking gifts, but it’s available to people who want to use it.

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