Post # 1
Next weekend my family is throwing Fiance and I an engagement party. It will be a get together for our families (who are about 2 hours away from each other) to get to know each other and also for the bridal party. We are not expecting gifts, and have asked those who have asked about gifts that “their presence is the present,” but over the past week, I’ve received some snarky comments about not having registered yet.
It’s a little late now to start a registry even if it’s a small one, right? We haven’t even thought about what we’d like to add to a registry yet – or where we will register.
Post # 3
I had never heard of e-parties until WB and honestly, I don’t see why you WOULD register for gifts! And if you aren’t expecting gifts then you shouldn’t feel like you need to register.
Post # 4
Fiance and I had our engagement party last summer and I was shocked that people bought us gifts! The week before the party we had a few people ask us to register, so we put together a small list at Target. We were thinking maybe 2 or 3 people would get us something, but almost everybody showed up with a gift! We got some bath towels, kitchen gadgets, a big pan, some cookie sheets and a blender. I know there was more, but I don’t remember what else. If people are asking about a registry, and you don’t mind putting a small one together, why not do it? People who want to get you something will be thankful. Have fun at your party!
Post # 5
I have literally never heard of people registering for engagement parties! That’s what the wedding reistry is for.
Post # 6
I would be pretty put off if I was invited to an engagement party that had a registry associated with it.
Post # 7
I have been to lots of engagement parties and I have never taken a gift. I would wait for your shower and wedding.
Post # 8
My Future Mother-In-Law insisted that we register for our engagement party.. but to balance it out I insisted that she not mention the registry on the invitation… and Fiance and I just made a small wishlist on target.com, not even under the name bridal registry that she could send people to if they asked, and honestly we got a few things off of it but mostly we got money. I was really shocked by all the gifts though.. it seemed like a lot to me.
Post # 9
@MissDonnaAnne: That’s what we did. Fiance and I didn’t mention a list, but I know people asked my parents about it. If we didn’t get people asking us to put one together, it wouldn’t have crossed our minds…we just wanted to party!
Post # 10
We didn’t register. People asked my parents and they said we had not registered. They brought gifts anyway. We got gift cards, lots of picture frames, and lots of wine. The registry is (IMO) more for the bridal shower.
Post # 11
We’re not registering and don’t expect gifts. We aren’t an “established” couple, we don’t have any joint belongings and nothing to start a new home (like…not even forks!!!). I’m pretty sure that since both of our families know this they will bring some small starter gifts to the e-party. We don’t expect it though.
Post # 12
thanks for your input ladies! i think i’ll wait it out until after the party. we ARE an established couple, so I think we’re going to need some time to figure out what we actually do need. 🙂
Post # 13
I’ve only been to one engagement party where the couple registered. And to be honest, no one liked that (well, we didn’t like the bride-to-be so maybe that influenced us). In the past we’ve brought a gift certificate for a night out, a bottle of nice wine, and a yard flag with the couples initial. Just something small to say congrats! A a heads up, when you do receive gifts do not open them in front of everyone. The bride to be that registered made her engagement party into a shower and it rubbed everyone the wrong way.
Post # 14
We registered before our e party and I’m so glad we did. We got SO much off the registry, it was awesome!
Post # 15
We started our registry this past week but our e-party isn’t until August. I didn’t want to do it so soon but we’ve had family members asking us where we’re registered ever since we announced our engagement in April. It’s pretty weird– were they expecting us to register before we were even engaged? I’ve told everyone that gifts aren’t expected but some people are going to bring gifts no matter what. They might as well be things we actually want.
Post # 16
I just attended an engagement party last weekend and I was glad they were registered. We’ve always gotten gifts for people’s engagement parties, and since this one was for a friend of my Darling Husband it was nice to have a registry to shop from, since Darling Husband is clueless about what to buy for people.
I’d say go ahead and register, but only give out the info to people who specifically ask, that way it doesn’t look like your seeking gifts, but it’s available to people who want to use it.