- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
While having a picture Thank You note is cute, it delays getting the notes out – and they should go out as soon as possible. If you got many gifts, it’ll take you a while to get all the notes done, so get started right away because…
It’s an absolutel no-no to send a generic thank you. I would be horrified if I got a note that was pre-printed and not personal at all. I bought someone a nice gift and they can’t take 5 minutes to write a note on a card? I know all those 5 minute notes add up, but it’s the responsibility that comes with being the recipient of generosity. Hand write them.
I don’t think I explained it very well (although I did specifically say hand-written note…) The ‘generic’ part would just be a picture of us, with the words ‘thank you’ above and then something like ‘we appreciated your help in celebrating this milestone’. Then there would be a much longer, personal, hand-written note on the back, referencing their particular gift, our relationship with them, how they especially helped on the day, etc.
The photo part won’t take any time – I have the photo on my computer, it would literally take me less than an hour to design a card and then drive down to my local officeworks to get them printed.
I agree with @ProfessorGirl:, a prompt thank you note is held in much greater esteem than one with a cute picture on it. Don’t let photo cards delay you! Only use them if you can get the photos printed as quickly as you could buy other stationery.
Pre-printing a message is a short cut. Even if you add a note at the bottom, it’s a “time saving” thing – and time saving, in the world of thank yous makes it seem as though you are not as appreciative – as if you sent thank you notes because you know you are supposed to, but you wanted to put as little effort in to them as possible. (I’m not saying that’s your thought process, but that is how I – and many other people – would interpret the cards.)
If you decide to go ahead with that anyway… I would not send “Thanks for celebrating” to guests who didn’t attend. It looks like you couldn’t keep track of the people who were at your party. I’d be confused if I got a card with a message like that when I had just sent a gift.
Again, it’s not about pre-printing the whole message. The pre-printed part is literally 2 lines long (“thanks! We had a great time!”) as opposed to the hand-written note which I was planning to be 300 words+ per card. I am saving practically no time by pre-printing those 2 lines – I just want them to look nice, in a pretty font, rather than my less-than-pretty handwriting.
I would have to go to the same place to buy my stationery as I would to print it – like I said above, literally no time lost. The reason I’m asking is because I want to do this all tomorrow (2 days after party!)
You seem pretty set on your idea. If it’s what you want to do, then it’s what you’ll do, right? I’m not sure why your asking for advice, but getting defensive when people reply.
People will appreciate a prompt thank you. We both said that. Good for you if you can get a cute photo card done quickly enough to get your notes out promptly! (A lot of times there’s a big delay with them – waiting to get a professional photo, then having them printed can take weeks!)
Obviously, we don’t know exactly what you have planned in your mind. If you think that your vision is awesome and your guests will love it, then the opinions of ladies from the internet don’t carry much weight. It’s ok to not agree with us, or take our advice/opinions to heart.
And, FWIW – having “THANK YOU!” printed across your photo on the front isn’t really what most of us think of when someone says they’re thinking of putting “a printed message” on a thank you card. That’s really more of a design element. I read your initial post as intending to print “Thanks for helping us celebrate!” in the message area, and then handwriting the message “Dear Auntie Sue, We loved seeing you. The toaster is great! Love, Seree xox”
I still say that a message about celebrating will be odd to guests who didn’t attend.
And of course you may write a message about what you intend to do with any cash gifts. Nobody expects that you went out and bought a new washer and dryer immediately following a party – just because you were given a monetary gift.
I vote no pre-printing, just because you’ll want to say those things in your own way, and having them pre-printed won’t actually be much of a timesaver if you’re going to be writing a hand-written addendum. It WILL, however, probably take more money to print on the opposite side. So I vote cute picture on the front and a blank inside, which you fill with your own writing.
Sorry if it seemed like I was getting defensive, I just felt that my posts weren’t properly getting read – even after I said that I was going to do a “longer, personal, hand-written note on the back, referencing their particular gift, our relationship with them, how they especially helped on the day, etc. “, you still seemed to think that it was going to be a 2-liner (“Dear Auntie Sue, We loved seeing you. The toaster is great! Love, Seree xox”).
I came here not asking whether my idea itself was a good one, but for specific advice on 2 questions, and it took me a few posts of defending my original idea before I actually got that advice. That’s why I seem ‘set on my idea’ – the idea itself wasn’t up for debate, which is why I specifically asked 2 questions relating to its execution.
I know I can get them out on time – I have the photo on my computer (taken on the day by my photographer Aunt), I know I can get them printed, yet apparently I need to be told better (just as you seem to think getting them printed immediately is impossible, I think that waiting weeks for printing is ridiculous where I live).
THE PRE-PRINTING IS NOT A TIMESAVER. I want to do photo cards. I think it would be nice to have a 2 lines of words on the front of the card with the picture – for appearance’s sake. I will almost certainly repeat that message, in more detail, when I write the personal message, but I just think it would be odd to have a picture with no words on the front.
Anyway, thanks for the advice on the use of money/vouchers. I have seen few posts where people send out thank-yous months after their wedding, presumably after they’ve used the money, so wasn’t sure if it was ok to state the intended purpose rather than already used purpose.
I wouldn’t pre-print a whole message but how about just printing “Thank you!” on the photo. Then you can write your own message on the back.
@seree: It’s lovely that you are putting so much thought into your thank you cards. I’m sure that your guests will appreciate which ever you choose, but here are my responses to your questions
1 – On the front, along with the picture i would either print the word ‘thank you’ or leave it with the picture only (no words). This wouid keep it generic & you’d be able to send it to all guests….along with the personal message that you’ve mentioned you’ll hand write on the back
2 – I would write something the lines of ‘ thank you for gift, we plan on using it towards / it will be a great help when we ….’
Hope this has helped!
I always enjoy getting a picture STD or thank you card. I think it’s so much more personal. Good idea, Seree! And I don’t think you need a separate one for ppl who weren’t actually there. They still helped you celebrate. And they might think you’re slighting them if they know their buddy got a picture thank you.
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